Oral histories and interviews strike gold

While writing Cherry Blossoms in Twilight, my mother’s stories of everyday life around WWII in Japan, my eyes were opened to the gold of all personal stories, especially of culture and history. Sure, I had heard plenty of Mom’s childhood stories of getting lost, hunting for tadpoles in rice paddies, and celebrating fairytale-like legends, but when I grew up and she told me how she survived during the war, history came alive as I never knew it before. My school history books never said anything about that part of WWII! They were full of dry overviews from the US viewpoint. They never said anything about the internment camps in the US for the Japanese-Americans either. See Mustang Koji’s Masako and Spam Musubi blog for stories about his mother’s family’s survival during WWII in Japan (thanks to Jan Morrill, author of The Red Kimono, for directing me to Koji) .

Memoir author and lifewriting workshop leader Susan Weidner was recently on a writing retreat in Tucson where she met fellow lifewriter Patricia Preciado Martin. Susan interviewed Patricia about her passion for gathering personal stories of Mexican American culture and history, including folk tales. After Patricia got tired of seeing Mexican American women portrayed as stereotypes, she gathered stories of real women and published Songs My Mother Sang to Me. Hop on over to Susan’s Women’s Writing Circle blog to read her post, Stories of Women in the Southwest, about Patricia’s important work. Patricia talks about doing research before interviewing a subject. Knowledge of the person’s culture and the history and sociology around the time of his or her earlier life does help identify important questions to ask, but don’t let that stop you from doing an interview. Once the stories start coming out, you may find yourself like a curious child sitting big-eyed at a grandparent’s knee—full of questions.

Songs My Mother Sang to Me

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Wil Haygood and the Butler: memories almost lost

DSCN4833Wil Haygood, journalist and author of The Butler: A Witness to History, was the keynote speaker today at the St. Louis Public Library, formally starting off Black History Month in St. Louis. Formally, because programs started on the first of February, and a free screening of The Butler movie was a few days later. I missed the movie and will have to see it, but I have Wil’s book, surprisingly slim at 95 pages including photos from the movie and an essay about African Americans portrayed in Hollywood movies. I had expected some big biography, but Eugene Allen, the butler, died only 16 months after Wil Haygood first spoke with him. And sadly, Helene Allen, Eugene’s wife, had died in her sleep only a few days after that first meeting. The book is about Haygood’s experiences finding and befriending Eugene and about the filming of the movie, which is not about the real Eugene, but incorporates some of his stories.

Wil Haygood is a good speaker, one who knows how to pause at the right moments. He kept us enthralled with his story. An audience member commented during the Q&A, “Your story of coming to tell the story is a story in itself.” That was true; how Haygood found Eugene Allen and got his stories was fascinating stuff. Haygood believed Barack Obama would win the presidency after he saw three white girls crying on the sidewalk one day and found it was because their daddies were refusing to speak to them because they were going to vote for a black man. If young ladies in the South were daring to rebel against their daddies . . .  Haygood the reporter wanted a story about a black person’s thoughts about the first black man elected president, thoughts from someone who had worked in the White House and been around during the civil rights era. On a tip, Haygood’s 57th call to the Eugene Allens in the phone book hit the jackpot.

After interviewing Allen and his wife, Haygood posted an article on the history of blacks in the White House that ran in the Washington Post on the day of Helene Allen’s burial – three days after Obama was elected. “A Butler Well Served by this Election” brought letters to Eugene and to Wil from all over the world, many expressing sadness that Helene died one day before she could have voted for the first black president.

Helene had been the one telling people her husband had important stories. She died happy, announcing to their son the night before that someone had finally come to write down those stories. After listening to Eugene, an astonished Haygood had asked him whether anyone had written his stories down before. Eugene answered, “If you think I’m worthy, you’ll be the first.”

Do you know anyone worthy enough for you to write down their stories? You never know.

Wil Haygood wearing a tie clip given to him by Eugene Allen, given to him by John F. Kennedy.

Wil Haygood wearing a tie clip given to him by Eugene Allen, given to him by John F. Kennedy.

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Seasons of Our Lives: Women’s Memoirs

“Each woman is a story waiting to be told,” says Susan Wittig Albert, author of Writing from Life and founder of Story Circle Network, an organization that teaches and encourages women to write and share their life stories. After writing my mother’s memoir, Cherry Blossoms in Twilight, I came to believe this sentiment, too. Not to say men don’t have important personal stories, but women, even today, are usually the backbone of the family and the carriers of the hands-on, in-the-trenches stories of everyday life. Their stories don’t usually make it into history books.

Seasons-of-Our-LivesI follow authors Matilda Butler and Kendra Bonnett and their Women’s Memoirs website which inspires and teaches women about writing their life stories and sometimes posts some of them. A couple years ago, they held a contest, inviting women to send in their short personal stories based on a season. Winning stories were featured on the website, and mine was one of them. Matilda and Kendra have just published four e-books of these vignettes, Seasons of Our Lives for spring, summer, autumn, and winter.

For 53 hours, beginning February 1 at 10:00 a.m. CDT, all four e-book volumes will be available for only $.99 each through Amazon’s Kindle* Store. Prices will increase by $1 each 53 hours until they reach the regular price of $3.99 each. The stories are sweet, sad, funny, poignant. Each is followed by a takeaway and writing tip from the editors, to help you reflect on the seasons of your life and hopefully prompt you to write your own stories. My story, A Child is Born, is in the spring volume. If you purchase one or all of these volumes, please support the writers by leaving Amazon reviews.

Seasons of Our Lives:  Spring
Seasons of Our Lives:  Summer
Seasons of Our Lives:  Autumn
Seasons of Our Lives:  Winter

*Note:  You do not need a Kindle to read these e-books. When purchasing, you are given options for reading, and can choose another type of e-reader (except Nook), including your pc or Mac.

The sale countdown:

February 1, 10am CST, $.99
February 3, 3pm CST, $1.99
February 5, 8pm CST, $2.99
February 8, 1am CST, $3.99 (regular price)

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