The Strength of Water: An Asian American memoir of challenges and persistence

I loved reading an advance copy of The Strength of Water, a memoir of King Ying “Helen” Yee by her daughter Karin Jensen. Karin’s mother, like mine, told stories that Karin, like me, eventually decided to capture through interviewing, remembering, and research – and, like me, completed after many years as life just gets in the way. As a Chinese American, Helen Yee experienced poverty and discrimination in the U.S. and terrible hardship in China where she was sent after her mother died – with the Second Sino-Japanese War starting soon after. Helen’s stories are a fascinating and sometime shocking look at culture and historic times in both countries. In the book’s epilogue, Karin says, “I have set down these stories for my daughters to understand where we came from and what a debt of gratitude we owe to those who came before us.”

Karin is my guest today, telling her story of writing and publishing her mother’s extraordinary, bittersweet memoir of persistence in the face of incredible challenges. I highly recommend reading The Strength of Water.

Capturing an Asian American Memoir Spanning Nearly a Century

Throughout childhood, my mother told stories of growing up in her parent’s Detroit laundry business during the Great Depression and later in a Cantonese village on the eve of the Sino-Japanese war. She also spoke of what it was like to survive on her own as a teen waitress in mid-century California.

There were stories of gamblers, an American dream, dashed hopes, dangerous superstitions, wartime privations, folklore, those who take advantage of the economically vulnerable, racism, and toxic cultural expectations relating to sexuality and marriage. There were also stories of persistence, resilience, the kindness of strangers, and the value of fighting for one’s true self.

In years past, I had interviewed Mom, my aunties, uncle, and sister and captured their stories on endless notepads, tape recordings, and Word docs. I had pipe dreams of publishing … someday. In 2020, in the emptiness of pandemic isolation, someday called. I finally organized all the stories into a proper draft document, sent it off to a developmental editor to assist with whittling it into a marketable manuscript, then began querying.

I queried only literary agents for a long time, hoping to hit the big time. I usually got a form rejection letter. The most common comment was that memoirs were difficult to sell without the author having an audience of fans eager to buy the book, such as through a popular blog or a massive social media following. I didn’t have either.

At length, I looked into small presses. As soon as I started, I regretted not researching them sooner. One press specialized entirely in memoirs. Another focused on stories of the Asian diaspora. Yet another focused on stories of California history, particularly related to ethnic minorities. The acquisitions editor for the third press I queried, Balestier Press of London and Singapore, responded. She thought my story’s illustration of Asian American history through one family’s deeply moving transpacific story was perfect for their portfolio of world literature. Bingo!

On March 1st, my book launched on Amazon, and a couple of weeks later, I had the great joy of seeing it on the shelves at my local bookstore. Now the next phase of my quest begins as I embark on the marketing journey. I cordially invite you to join me in stepping back one hundred years to a way of life that no longer exists and to see the world through the eyes of a spunky little girl who never gave up on her slice of happiness. The Strength of Water, an Asian American Coming of Age Memoir, is available on Amazon.

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May is Asian Pacific American History Month and on Wednesday, May 10, 2023, at 7pm Pacific Time (10pm Eastern), Karin will be featured in a free online discussion by the Friends of the Alameda Free Library. See the May 10 event listing to register.

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Telling Stories to the Bittersweet End

My aunt with dementia is in hospice care now, not eating, drinking only a bit, and mostly sleeping. Several of us are taking shifts sitting with her, making her feel loved and sometimes getting her to smile and even laugh whenever she’s awake. Otherwise, we don’t know what to do. But her out-of-state sister came to visit and the two had a lovely time as the sister told stories of their childhood and teen years and about their parents. The rest of us loved hearing those stories!

As my mother did when she was in her last years of dementia, my aunt enjoyed those old memories. Even if she didn’t actually remember, the stories were sweet and sometimes funny, and she was a part of them. The sister’s job is to start writing those stories for all the family. I had my mother’s stories from writing her Cherry Blossoms in Twilight memoir of childhood and young womanhood in Japan around WWII times. Doesn’t this remind us of the Nicholas Sparks novel and the movie The Notebook?

My tagline is “Saving the past for the future.” This holds poignant meaning when the future is our own.

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My Crazy Trip to Japan Travel Memoir

I did it! After 7 years I finally put together my notes, memories, and photos and published a family-only little travel memoir of the October 2015 first-time trip to Japan I took with my sister and our daughters to see the land of our heritage and to meet cousins (who could not speak English). That week-plus visit was so challenging for me as to be almost ridiculous. Why? A couple of my language school friends had gone with few Nihongo skills and had a great time. I could speak rudimentary Japanese although I could not understand much when people spoke it back to me (in rapid-fire words I did not know yet). Organized and detail-oriented me had everything planned out with copious notes. Yet still we were “lost” so often it was maddening – I had a bucket list to attend to and no time to waste.

That was probably the problem. I am not a particularly good traveler as I like everything just so with no bumps in the road, and I do not like to be the leader. Since I and most of our group would likely not ever go back to Japan, I wanted to get the most out of that trip. We had only one tour booked and that was just an overnighter, otherwise I was the illiterate guide in a foreign land. I had nervous nightmares beforehand and quite a few came true, hence the title of our book.

The family-only paperback of My Crazy Trip to Japan (via Lulu.com) only went to us travelers, and they loved reliving the memories. Then my dad wanted to read it so I had a copy shipped to him. He and my stepmom LOVED it! When I posted about it on Facebook and told some friends, quite a few wanted to read it. I did not want to publish it for others since it had some family-personal details and photos of us and, most importantly, I did not want to scare people away from visiting Japan. Japan is an amazing country of impressive ancient history mixed with modern plus beautiful rural areas we all fell in love with! With so many others loving their Japan travels with no problems to speak of, I knew it was just me, my OCD personality and expectations, travel inexperience, and some bad luck.

Well, I just put the e-book version on Amazon through its Kindle Direct Publishing arm. I did know how to format the manuscript for e-book and it looks good. KDP has a super-limited cover creator that re-created the one I made for the Lulu paperback original well enough. This e-version is edited to alter the names of my reticent Japanese family members but my fellow travelers were fine with using their real first names. I removed the photos with us in them for our (their) privacy, whether they cared or not. I was pleased to see the photos showed up very well and placed correctly. KDP will take a paperback-formatted manuscript and auto-convert to e-book, but I only uploaded directly for e-book since I figured no one would really want a print version. I priced the e-book as low as possible ($2.99) to still get the 70% royalty (minus Amazon fees). It is available almost worldwide, for laptop and most any device, and it’s free for Kindle Unlimited customers.

So if you’re interested in a boots-on-the-ground experience of my challenging trip to Tokyo, Kyoto, Nara, and the Japanese Alps, I welcome you to read – and leave review comments please. You can laugh, but I’m not over my exhaustion yet!

My Crazy Trip to Japan e-version

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