Voices of the Dead: Memories in the Cemeteries

This week some of our local actors dressed up in period costume to play the part of dead people. Appearing from behind trees or rising up from behind gravestones in the Valhalla Cemetery, the actors became some of those long dead, telling their stories in the dark of night. One was a Civil War veteran, another a gangster, another a woman who murdered her millionaire husband. Members of the local writers guild researched nine chosen interred with the help of the genealogical society and penned 8-minute narratives for each. They tried to capture not only history, but the personalities of their subjects. Some were able to interview family members. Audience reaction was good, and some families even requested their deceased relatives be included in next year’s Voices of Valhalla.

“I guess everybody has a story,” said one guest. “It’s a different way to look at a cemetery,” said another, as reported by the St. Louis Post Dispatch.

Today I walked across the graves of many in St. Louis’s famous old Bellefontaine Cemetery, snapping photos and stopping to think about lives. Especially tiny lives that ended too soon, often marked by worn lambs atop small blocks of concrete or marble. The old gravestones carry so much more feeling than the new, plain markers, but all have their stories. Did the stories get told? Did children pass them on? We can only wonder at the secret lives, the hardships and joys, now just pretty monuments to gather fall leaves and act as obstacles to a lone coyote trotting past. The autumn breeze whispers, “Tell your stories before it’s too late.”

My Bellefontaine Cemetery movie

from Calvary Cemetery, next to Bellefontaine
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Flash memoir: a memory episode

Flash memoir is an exciting concept related to flash fiction, which is not a new writing form but now has a catchy name and has become popular. Short stories are in the range of 3000-5000 words. Flash fiction is even shorter – no strict limit unless there are contest rules, but generally 300-1000 words. Micro fiction is a few to 300 words. Recall Ernest Hemingway’s legendary six-word story: “For sale: baby shoes, never worn.” You don’t hear about it much, but short stories, flash and micro fiction can easily be adapted to life writing. Call it flash memoir.

Writing an entire memoir is daunting, requiring a lot of time, at least some writing talent to avoid boring readers, and organizational skills. Life writing is easier when it encompasses short stories, flash memoir and even poetry. Cut way back on the time and organizational skills, but it’s still nice to learn some basic writing skills (a future blogpost).

Writing short is much easier than writing long. Or is it? I’ve been taking an online class on writing flash fiction/memoir, through Story Circle Network, to brush up my short-writing skills and to learn how to adapt flash to true stories. The latter is easy, but good short-writing is not so easy. You must skimp on words but still create the essence of the story, providing a beginning hook to grab reader interest, then break into the guts of the scene, and end with a wrap-up. Novice writers should not be frightened, but should write their true short story or flash drafts as best they can. It’s the rewrites that are hell!

When you write short you must strip out all the babble—the extraneous thoughts, chatter, anything that isn’t directly a part of the story line or isn’t directly related to establishing a character personality. This is true for any story, but especially so for shorts. The chatty stuff can distract the reader. Think as a storyteller: what can I say in the beginning to grab interest, and what can I say at the end as a finishing thought. Often flash fiction ends with a twist—a clever, thoughtful line or perhaps a different perspective or a new understanding. The surprise isn’t necessary, but try to give your story a point—usually, what did you (or someone in your story) learn or come away with. If you can say this in a funny or a poignant way, extra points for you!

See Flash Fiction Online for some examples, and imagine how you can use this style for your own real life stories.

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The last memories

Mom has been unusually calm these days. She has been a fighter against her Alzheimer’s, not going easily into the twilight world of forgetfulness and unable to accept her greatly diminishing physical abilities, so her peacefulness is a surprise. I am so happy she now allows me to take care of her, to sit outside watching the moon with her, to tuck her in bed with a kiss, without fussing and worrying about the horrors of old age. “Who said this is the ‘golden age,’” was her mantra.

There’s not much to say when I visit—since I come so often, there’s not much news, and I don’t like repeating myself endlessly anyway—but she loves my presence beside her. It makes her feel safe, despite the fact that those who work there are loving caregivers. The one thing she does remember that we can talk about together is her childhood. Thankfully, since I’ve written her stories into a book, I now know those stories better than she does so I can prompt her memories as well as join in.

Last night, sitting outside in the evening, Mom sang a Japanese children’s lullaby to the moon, over and over—the one I sing to her after I tuck the quilt around her at bedtime. “Mikazuki-sama, konban wa.” Today she talked about the old festivals of Japan. She sang an old folk song (again and again), swaying her hands to movements half-remembered. I stood up and did the beginning of the dance for her, the only part I could remember.

I’m so glad I have her old memories written down. And it is so beautiful to wrap the memories around us, holding us together as one. I think we are both at peace now, ready to face the future.

Note: this post was inspired by an article by Julie Redstone on Yvonne Perry’s blog, More Than Meets the Eye. The article is entitled The Challenge of Death and Dying – Caring for Aging Parents.

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