Remembrance on Memorial Day

Memorial Day has morphed into a weekend of fun marking the beginning of summer, with little thought to the real meaning of the holiday which is to honor the memories of those who have passed on before us, particularly those who died in service of their country. Three years after the Civil War ended, Decoration Day was celebrated at Arlington National Cemetery on May 30, 1868, with flowers placed at the graves of those who died in that war. After WWI the last Monday in May was designated as Memorial Day to honor the dead of all American wars, and later families adopted the day to decorate the graves of anyone who was dearly departed. Amidst the barbeques and picnics, pause and toast the family members loved and lost, raise the flag to those who perished in wars, lay a flower on a grave.

The Battlefield

They dropped like flakes, they dropped like stars,
Like petals from a rose
When suddenly across the June
A wind with fingers goes.

They perished in the seamless grass,
No eye could find the place;
But God on his repealless list
Can summon every face.

     -Emily Dickinson

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Memories of your childhood home

What do you remember about the house you grew up in? When thinking back on our lives we immediately think about what we did and maybe how we felt, but often forget about background “accessories,” such as the house and yard, the town, the neighborhood. A friend, who helps others find the history of their older homes in St. Louis, recently discovered History of Homes website which collects house memories of people worldwide as well as old photos, which got me thinking about the house I grew up in . . .

Our ranch home had three square bedrooms and one bathroom which got quite busy as my sister and I grew older. The living room for the longest time grew green shag carpet—a meadow for my roaming horse collection. A Japanese-style tokonoma (decorative) area against one wall was a backdrop for special family photos. The linoleum-floored kitchen/dining room (arena for a dishwater fight) had a sliding glass door leading to a patio and kidney-shaped goldfish pond with waterfall in a Japanese-flavored yard. The utility room had upper cabinet doors painted by my sister and I when we were teens: funky-style Ginger Baker and Eric Clapton from one of the Cream covers, Pink Floyd’s Dark Side of the Moon triangle. The house had redwood-painted wood siding with a covering of brick along the lower front portion of the house. A mass of junipers hid the brick until my mother chopped them into giant bonsai.

Our home always felt plenty big for our family of four, but I remember well when I first returned after moving far away how small and dark the rooms seemed. What had happened? I guess I had grown out of that house as one grows out of a pair of favorite jeans. It was sad to see my old friend become just a shell for my fond memories. Much later, when my mother moved away and the new owners cut down the trees, I couldn’t bear to drive by.

Too bad I never took any photos of our old house in its prime, with the big silver maple I used to climb up to the sky, and my favorite sour cherry tree that would be full of warm, ripe red. As an adult, I’ve taken photos of each of the many houses my husband and I have lived in, and so our children will always be able to see where they once lived. When you write about your childhood, remember to include your old friends, the houses you grew up in.

My childhood home in its early years.

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Creating real memoir books with Lulu

A couple mothers I know received beautiful gifts of memories for Mothers Day. The memoir books I’ve been working on arrived in the mail this week from Lulu.com. Kate’s bittersweet memories from childhood, including being orphaned at age 13 and caring for her little brothers, became a 24-page hardcover with her photo on the front. She was amazed at how nice it looked, pleased and honored that someone thought her stories were worth that kind of effort. Her daughter was very excited and asked me to order another ten copies. My mother-in-law was also very happy to receive an 84-page soft cover book of the highlights of her father’s stack of letters to home during his WWII service. She called to thank me and tell me she had tears in her eyes as she read the first section.

To get the manuscripts printed and bound, I opened an account with Lulu.com, a popular “self-publishing” company which actually serves as a publishing services company too expensive to use for those intending to sell their books to the public. However, for private family memoirs needing small quantities, Lulu is a good deal. It would have cost me almost as much at Kinkos to have the pages coil bound with frosted plastic cover as it did to make real-book copies at Lulu. Lulu has a number of format styles for book covers, or you can upload your own design at extra cost. You can choose the exact color shade(s) for your front and back covers, add photos and text. My advice is to choose standard paper vs the ultra thin “publisher” grade paper. A Word file can then be uploaded to the site, but I created a pdf file (using the free PrimoPdf download) since there were photos set into the text that I wanted to make sure would stay in place when converted to book. Be sure to double-check cover and manuscript to ensure all is well, and this was a little awkward as there was no way to “back up” from view mode so I had to just close out the window and then get back into Lulu. Once “published,” copies can be ordered and will arrive in about a week. I chose trackable shipping which is a little more expensive than regular. The FedEx man delivered the books well-packed within cardboard boxes.

The minimum page number for hard cover is 24 total (counting fronts and backs), the minimum for soft cover is 84. Both books were at the bare minimum, which can make binding more difficult. The hard cover appears to be of high quality binding, the soft cover is good and held up to reading. There was some tiny “chipping” at the tops and bottoms of the narrow spines, this from cutting the covers to size—not much to complain about, and should not occur with thicker books. All in all, they look very nice and are impressive for the family. The 84-page 8 ½” x11” book is $6.84 each, the same size 24-page hardcover is $15.63 each. There is a discount if ordering 50 or more copies. Lulu conveniently prices everything out for you immediately as you choose your options of size, binding, number, shipping method.

No excuses now, it is easier than ever and not too expensive to create your own real book of memories.

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