Senior Care Centers filled with great stories

It was a storytelling kind of day. I have become friends with some of the ladies living in the senior care center with my mother. Kate is a good storyteller, and so I decided to type her childhood tales into a booklet. Today I brought six pages to her when I came to join the ladies at lunch. She was thrilled. She said she wished she had thought to keep a journal while she was growing up, or to have thought to write down her stories years ago because she is forgetting. She thought everyone should keep a journal so they can remember the details of how their lives used to be. Things change, you know.

Kate had lost both parents by age 13, during the Depression years. Surprisingly, no one came to take the kids to an orphanage. The oldest brother quit high school to work to support his young siblings. Kate had the house to take care of and three little brothers, the youngest only seven. She quit school soon after, during eighth grade, after spinal meningitis took away the use of her legs to where she could only pull herself along the floor. Somehow she recovered fully without ever going to the hospital or getting medicine. Kindly neighbors and their pastor kept an eye on the children, but everyone was struggling in those days, so the kids had to make do on their own with minimum help. I will leave her hilarious story of their first Thanksgiving on their own to a November blog post.

Edie cried as she told us her story today, the first time we had heard it. She was born in Germany and barely survived WWII. Her parents were gunned down by Russian soldiers – her mother’s last words to her, “Get down, get down!” Fifteen-year-old Edie was dumped alive into a big trash bin along with her dead parents. Her grandmother pulled her out. Not long after, the Americans were welcomed into town, the soldiers admiring Edie’s long blond hair. She and other orphans were sent to the United States, where she found a home with a relative. She carries treasured memories of her mother wearing a long skirt and waltzing with her in the living room.

Our senior residences and nursing homes are like libraries, each person a book waiting to be read. If we do not bother to open those books, the stories will die. What a shame to lose those historic, fascinating, funny, and sad tales. Imagine if I had not bothered to care, to ask, to listen… “I might have gone on my way empty hearted.”*

*from the Fascination waltz.

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Cooking up favorite memories and recipes

Today is a big birthday for me – AARP is after me now! I’m okay with this, but wanted the day kept low key. My girls insisted on making me one of my favorite cakes – from scratch! – one which I have not made in ages. And that reminds me of the importance of passing on favorite recipes.

It’s easy to assume our parents and grandparents will be around forever to cook our favorite foods, and how many people write to the newspapers or cooking magazines asking if others know a recipe like their dear mom used to make. My mom was a good cook in her day, before dementia stole her abilities. As kids my sister and I drooled over her meaty enchiladas, golden sweet potato tempura, wontons like you’ve never had in any restaurant, her angel food cake concoctions. My mom-in-law makes such hearty, lip-smacking, southern-style meals that people hire her to cater their special events. My step-mom, too, can lay a spread for a crowd like nobody’s business, including her yum dilly potato salad. For my own little family, I am waiting for the day my husband goes off his seemingly perpetual diet and the kids grow up enough to be less picky. Meanwhile, I have collected my favorite mom recipes for that someday time.

Heaven forbid we lose our favorite mom recipes. And imagine how treasured they would be if in Mom’s own handwriting! It’s a good idea to watch your favorite food being made so you’ve had some experience with it and can ask questions, because you know there can be finer nuances accompanying a written recipe. I’m so glad my mom taught me how to fold those wontons, I’m so glad my mom-in-law showed me how to make the dumplings just right in chicken and dumplings. And what better way to make memories and bond with someone than by cooking together!

Angel Apricot Nectar Cake

One angel food cake, baked from mix
1qt 14oz can apricot nectar
2 c sugar
½ c cornstarch
Large tub whipped cream (Cool Whip)

Tear up cake into medium size chunks, place in bottom of 13”x9” cake pan. In large bowl stir together sugar and cornstarch, add 1 cup nectar and mix well. Pour remaining nectar into a medium size saucepan and simmer until thick. Pour over the cake pieces. Cool, then cover with whipped cream and refrigerate. Beautiful when made into a trifle in glass bowl(s).

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Hurrah for the red, white and blue – immigrant stories

As America celebrates her birthday, some people will be more grateful than others for the blessings they have found in this country. They are the immigrants, many of whom have escaped war, oppression, or grinding poverty. While they quickly realize none of our streets are paved in gold, they still are relieved to be alive and free to reach for their dreams. Many who remain in poverty or have suffered a difficult transition or other hardships are still thankful to be in America. The illegal immigrants often brave horrors and death to come here and live a marginal existence, still believing it is worth it. Today, those who struggle here have help through organizations such as the International Institute of St. Louis, The Lutheran Immigration & Refugee Service, The Refuge and Immigrant Family Center in Seattle and many others across the country. Each of the immigrants has a story.

Enrique’s Journey by Sonia Nazario who traced young Enrique’s dangerous trip from Honduras via the tops of trains and hitch hiking to find his mother working somewhere in the U.S.

They Poured Fire on Us From the Sky by Benjamin Ajak, Benson Deng, Alephonsian Deng, three orphaned boys who escaped the Sudan War and came to amazing America

God Grew Tired of Us by John Bul Dau who was separated from his family during the war in Sudan and spent years in refugee camps before coming to the U.S. and experiencing culture shock

The Latehomecomer: A Hmong Family Memoir by Kao Kalia Yang whose family escaped from Laos to a refugee camp in Thailand and then went on to adapt to the upper Midwest, a vastly different culture that did not understand them

Breaking Through by Francisco Jimenez whose family of illegal migrant workers was sent back to Mexico only to return to California where life was hard and they felt a definite culture clash (YA)

When I was Puerto Rican by Esmerelda Santiago whose mother took her children from poverty in rural Puerto Rico to the poverty of big city Brooklyn, NY, but the author succeeds as she struggles with the transition, going on to attend Harvard on scholarship

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