When I Die

This has been a sad month of celebrity deaths. Karen Alaniz of the blog Write Now noted in a June 14 post how the media announces that so-and-so died at age XX. I did a quick search and noted how media headlines blatantly shout announcements such as “Tim Russert – Dead at 58!” Karen commented how nice it would be if it were instead announced that someone LIVED to be age XX… “She LIVED to be 101!” That little twist of words changes a death into a celebration of life, and hopefully each of us is living a life to be celebrated. We don’t have to be celebrities or do something notable, but only to have enjoyed life and perhaps helped others along the way. She lived. That sounds like a person worth remembering. And that reminds me of a well-loved poem:

“To laugh often and much;
To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children;
To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends;
To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others;
To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a
Redeemed social condition;
To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived,
This is to have succeeded.”

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Back Up Your Files!

One of my relatives had her house broken into and the thief stole her and her daughter’s laptop computers. I think this is about as bad as having your wallet stolen – maybe worse depending on what you’ve got loaded on your machine. Yikes!

Well, today I’m reminding readers to BACKUP YOUR COMPUTER FILES! If you are really on the ball, you’d regularly dump your files onto a flash drive – and maybe even store your most personal files on a special flash drive that you hide away in a drawer… I say this as I see my flash drive sitting out in plain view. Ideally, when important files are complete and will not be changed you will copy them onto a CD or DVD, maybe making two different sets and storing them in different places. Of course, you will need to keep an eye out for technology changes and re-copy those files onto new CDs or who knows what other kind of storage methods will come in the future. There are even archival quality CDs and DVDs to help prevent aging of the media. By the way, remember to label files as well as outsides of the storage media so you can easily find whatever you may need to look for. Consider also the value of keeping a hardcopy of your most treasured files, especially photos which can last up to 70 years if commercially printed and if stored properly.

All my mother’s memories are loaded onto CDs – the original Word file of our book Cherry Blossoms in Twilight, all the illustrations and photos, audio clips, the book trailer plus my more important business files. Personally I’m more worried about a glitch in the computer or a virus attack rather than a thief, but you never know. Once my daughter spilled milk on my keyboard and I had a panic; fortunately after a couple days of drying out, the computer worked again.

So remember to keep up with the computer backups so you don’t lose your own written or photographed memories of who and what’s important in your life.

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Father’s Day Thoughts

When I was a little girl I thought I was Daddy’s favorite. Imagine my surprise when many, many years later, at my dad’s 60th birthday party, I heard my own sister stand up and reminisce to the crowd of family and friends how SHE was Daddy’s girl! Say what!! Well, my dad must have been a talented man to have both his daughters believing they were his favorite. With Father’s Day almost here, I hope you remember your dad with fond thoughts.

At one time I thought my dad was perfect, like a god. As I grew older there came a disappointing day when I realized he was not. No father, or mother, can be perfect. They can only love and grow their children the best they are able. In some cases, they are not very able and their children hopefully come to that realization and understand that their parents’ behavior is not a reflection of the child. How tragic and how common it is to believe that there is something wrong with us if our parents don’t love us enough or treat us well. Our parents love us in the way they know how, as near perfect or as very imperfect as that may be. Father’s Day is a time to honor what our fathers ARE able to be for us. I am thankful to have been blessed with a daddy who was VERY able.

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