Bedtime Stories

My daughter and I often read together at bedtime. Doesn’t everyone do this with their young children? It’s a great time to share of each other and cuddle and enjoy a good book to boot. When my girls were younger, I sang to them as well – not just “Rock-a-By-Baby” but songs like “Somewhere Over The Rainbow” and “My Funny Valentine.” I even made up a song for my oldest when she was a baby and would rock her to sleep with it.

My youngest daughter would ask me to make up stories, but not being a good fiction writer I usually stuck with real-life stories of my childhood. One night, though, I hit the jackpot. The story I made up was one to be repeated over and over. Since I wrote Cherry Blossoms, my daughter now thinks I should publish this bedtime story.

Have you ever made up a song or story for your kids? Have you written it down or otherwise recorded it? My dad cherishes the memory of his father telling him a made-up story about a rabbit. Your family might really enjoy reading your story or hearing that song you created, simple or silly as you might think it to be.

Author and mom Kim McDougall Chatel brought this idea to fruition. As she tells Mayra Calvani in an interview on Blogcritics, “One evening during a storm, my daughter couldn’t sleep. I started a game with her that would last for years. I gave her a dream. This funny story was something she could latch onto while she tried to sleep and I told her to finish it in her dreams.”

From this original bedtime story, Kim created an adorable children’s book called Rainbow Sheep, about a sad rainbow so cheered by a little shepherd girl that he cries colorful tears of joy that land on the sheep and turn them into rainbow shades. She also used her talents with fiber art to make little sheep “teased” out of wool which she then used to illustrate her book. Her daughter now has her bedtime story permanently captured along with the artistry of her mother. Now that is a family heirloom!

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Writing Your Stress Away

Howard Butcher, associate professor of nursing and a researcher at the University of Iowa, is doing a study to find whether writing can help relieve the stress of caregivers of dementia patients. I think he is looking for me (my mother now has severe short-term memory loss). Butcher found in previous studies that writing can have psychological and physical health benefits after only three 20-minute sessions. This is not news to those who practice journaling.

You may have heard that writing down one’s thoughts, feelings and experiences can help us deal with unpleasant situations or events, even trauma. There are different kinds of therapeutic writing, but good spelling, grammar or writing technique are unnecessary and besides the point which is to let the feelings rush out past the floodgates and onto the paper where they can sort themselves out better. If you are looking just for stress relief, you don’t even have to read what you write! Some may call this therapy, some may call it “venting,” but most of us know how good it feels to “vent.” (Just a thought – if you don’t want anyone else to read what you write, toss your notes in the fireplace afterwards, shred them or keep them under lock and key.)

Anyone who is caring for a relative or friend with any serious memory-loss condition is welcome to visit http://swee.iowa.uiowa.edu or call 1-319-335-7039 to participate in Butcher’s study.

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Bad Day Memories

Some days are just bad. Maybe, heaven forbid, you even have one of those weeks full of one mishap after another. One annoyance can make your eyes roll, but when you have several, what does one do?! Are you the type who stomps their feet and yells, or are you able to roll with the punches. Well, of course, losing one’s temper makes for bad memories for all, to keep with the theme of this blog, but the way to turn a bad day into something pleasantly memorable (if only in hindsight!) is to practice anger management techniques and learn to keep things in perspective.

Today was difficult for me. After staying up very late working on accounting figures for my job, rising early to get my child ready for crossing-guard duties, and slogging through a difficult day at work, I was exhausted. Wanting to catch a cat nap while supper was simmering on the stove, I thought to feed the pets first. I then filled up the little bucket of water for the critters, and tried to set it back in place just beyond the dog bowl. Buddy popped his head up out of his food, knocking the bucket out of my hands, waterfall pouring onto the floor! I spent the next fifteen minutes on my hands and knees with soppy towels. No, I did not kick the poor dog, but kept all in perspective thinking I really needed to clean the floor anyway. Was I just beaten too far down that day to be mad? I think not. I’m just not one to make much fuss over spilled water…even a LOT of spilled water.

The day before, I had to take one of the cats in to the vet and, after searching all over the house to find her, could not cram her into the carrier without resultant emergency surgery. Tibby was still a bit nervous wearing a little harness and leash while I carried her into strange lands. As I walked into the reception area I felt warm wetness flowing down my side. Tibby was peeing…on me. Fortunately, she had not peed in my new car. Fortunately it was a short drive home to clean clothes. I figured I was sweaty from cleaning the house and could have used a change of clothes anyway.

When you’re having a bad day, instead of getting crabby, try shaking your head, remaining positive and thinking about what a good story you’ll have to tell at the dinner table that night.

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