The Gift of Reading

On Sunday, Dec 2, the St. Louis Post Dispatch carried an essay by Ridley Pearson, co-author with Dave Barry of the Peter and the Starcatchers books, about his early memories of reading. It was a beautiful tribute to his father, now ailing from a stroke, who helped instill the love of reading into his sons by often reading at the dinner table a thought-provoking paragraph or two from a book or article. Pearson learned that reading was something that ought to be shared. “Reading is what connects the dots between the forty-somethings and the six-year-olds.”

At bedtime that night, my daughter chose for us to read Cat Heaven and Dog Heaven, the heavenly duo of books by Cynthia Rylant. These favorites of ours remind us of beloved pets we have lost and give us hope that they went to a happy place where we might someday see them again. That night, the reading began a discussion of God and heaven and what we think happens to us after death. We shared a great conversation, listening carefully to each other and asking each other questions. We were connecting the dots between a forty-something and an eleven-year-old, and trying to get to the dot that was God.

Earlier in the evening I had connected dots with my husband and teen daughter using a Post Dispatch article about the definition of rich vs middle-class in the context of adjusting the cap on payroll taxes, from the recent Hilary-Obama debate. That started an interesting discussion in which I certainly learned a few things, not just about definitions but about my husband, my daughter, and even myself.

And so I must agree with Ridley Pearson that reading is an avenue to sharing our thoughts and feelings, of connecting to others. I must also say that this sharing can cause big discussions and so provide an opportunity to learn how to listen to each other, respect each other’s opinions and discuss rather than argue. And that’s a whole ‘nother topic.

PS: According to Edward Wolff, economics professor at New York University, middle class in a big city means income of $40,000-$200,000. To be rich, though, he thinks you must make more than $350,000 per year and have at least $10 million in accumulated wealth. As my husband said, it’s not just income. As I said, wow!

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Charlie Brown Christmas memories

The winter holiday season is here! Been feeling a little behind as so many houses and yards are already dressed for Christmas and I still had the cornstalk and gourds out, but I do love Fall and like to give it and Thanksgiving it’s full due. It is finally really cold here, though, and time to think Christmas. Watched my favorite Charlie Brown Christmas again, this time on TV, which seems to make it more special despite all the ads. Makes me think of when I was a kid and there were no videotapes or DVDs.

I like Charlie Brown Christmas because of the music (we own the soundtrack) and because it carries the Christmas story which I love to hear Linus tell…something about his voice. Once upon a time, I was the Christmas angel at church and gave the same speech, so each year I like to see how much of it I still remember. And, I remember how my sister and I, who many mistook for twins, used to dance in tandem in the living room, imitating the two purple-dressed girl twins. Yes, I love to bask in good old memories.

I’ve just finished reading Christmas at Long Lake, a Childhood Memoir by Rick Skwiot. If you like nostalgia, remembering the mid-1900’s, if you live in the country or in the Midwest especially anywhere near St. Louis, you will love this book! The author tells of his last Christmas living out in the countryside, when his father loses his job and the family’s future is uncertain. Harkening back to his six-year-old life in near blue-collar poverty, Skwiot remembers it to be a kind of Eden where children ran barefoot chasing rabbits through fields, played ice hockey on the frozen lake or hunted crawfish among mossy wet overhangs. Skwiot tells this meandering bittersweet story of life in the “old days” with such beautifully descriptive prose, that I began to remember memories I never had! Guess I love to bask in anybody’s good old memories.

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Pearl Harbor Day Memories

The Thanksgiving turkey has been boiled into savory soup, the family photo taken for the Christmas cards, and each evening finds more lights sparkling in the neighborhood, but in the midst of the happy holiday season comes a somber day of remembrance—Pearl Harbor Day. Next Friday, many older Americans will pause to think back to the shock of fear and perhaps anger they felt upon hearing the unbelievable news…Americans attacked on their own soil! How could this happen?! And then the story began, the story that is really many stories of personal strength, perseverance, loss, hope. Do you remember? Do your parents or grandparents remember?

I have Ken Burns’ book The War on my Christmas list; my husband would like the DVD. We both enjoy learning about history, but I really like hearing the personal and cultural perspectives…how an event affected everyday life, what did people think about it, why did people act in given ways. And, I like to learn about both sides of a story. In my mother’s memoir, Cherry Blossoms in Twilight: Memories of a Japanese Girl, she barely remembers hearing about Pearl Harbor, perhaps because she was young at the time and just trying to get through daily life. Life was difficult because of the poverty Japan experienced due to fighting in China for many years, and my mother was forced to quit school after fifth grade and go to work to earn money for the family. Here is an excerpt from her book:

“I was sixteen years old then and too young to bother paying much attention to something far away. After Pearl Harbor, though, we began to listen to the radio to hear how many enemy ships sank, how many bombs were dropped, and how many airplanes were shot down. We celebrated when we heard our soldiers had won a battle. We never heard how many of our soldiers were killed or how much damage was done by the enemy.”

What many Americans do not realize is that the Japanese government and military controlled the media and therefore the civilians generally heard only what the leadership chose to divulge about the War. The people were given the “government story.” Hmmm, I think we can relate to that!

On December 8, raise your American flag in support of those who survived Pearl Harbor and in memory of those who didn’t. Ask that gem of a question, “Where were you when you heard about…” and see what kind of fascinating stories pour forth.

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