To Publish or Not To Publish

Most family stories are meant for the family. A nice 8 ½ x11” booklet can be printed out and taken to a local copy shop to have covers put on and be spiral or cloth bound. Some family stories, however, might be of rather unique historical value and one might want to consider actually publishing the stories for a wider audience. It is quite a jump to go from casual writing to producing a book, but if you are a pretty good writer and have plenty of interesting family stories, you might want to look into becoming an author. Warning, warning, it is a LOT of work and there is a business end to deal with.

If you think you have it in you to write a book, you must decide WHO you would write the book for (no, not EVERYONE) and determine if there really would be interest in it. I decided to publish Cherry Blossoms in Twilight because my mother’s story of growing up in Japan during WWII was rather unique and I thought that school teachers would have a particular interest in it. The book was written with that specific audience in mind, although it is a learning experience for adults also. The second edition coming out late this summer focuses even more on historic detail and has been slightly altered to be suitable for an even younger elementary audience.

Is your story unique? There are plenty of Holocaust stories, stories of WWII in China, and of U.S. internment camps for those of Japanese heritage. Maybe your relatives were put in one of the few U.S. internment camps for German-heritage people or have a difficult immigration story. Perhaps your stories would be of interest locally, for example, to illuminate life and the history of the early days of your town. You might be extra creative and want to weave a novel around your family history. Perhaps your stories would be inspirational to others.

If your story can stand out from the crowd, and you are tempted to publish in order to share it with those outside your family, read all you can about the business end of writing, publishing and marketing. There are decisions to be made before you even write the first word.

For some very important information about publishing choices, Bob Baker (who makes his living as an author) has a new e-book available in print or audio. Self-Publishing Success Secrets 101 spells it all out succinctly for new authors. Read up on it at http://www.bob-baker.com/self-publish-book/ebook-audio.html.

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Memorial Day Thoughts-Pearl Harbor to Iraq

A few days ago I gave a presentation to a large group of seniors, telling about the creation of my Japanese mother’s Cherry Blossoms in Twilight book and hoping to encourage them to share their own stories with their families. All was going well until one woman, with disgust in her voice, loudly said, “What about Pearl Harbor, did you forget about that?” My first ever “heckler,” so to speak. I was not upset or angry, but instead took that opportunity to expound at length about the horrors of war that are wreaked upon all involved.

War is not something that the people of a country vote on. It is decided by government and military leaders who in many countries will brutally smash any opposition or resistance to their views. They may control the media, mislead their people, and otherwise convince or threaten their citizens to believe as they do. I feel so lucky to live in a country where people are free to disagree with their leaders without the fear of being imprisoned, tortured, killed. The United States is filled with immigrants with terrible stories of fleeing an unwanted war to come to a place where they not only can be safe but have the freedom to be.

I believe it is almost a duty for those with war experiences to share some of those stories so that people will always be horrified at what war does to real people. It is easy for many of us to sit back in our recliners and shut off the TV when unpleasant pictures of faraway places are shown. This Memorial Day, please take a moment to remember that war is not some kind of video game, and that families are destroyed in heartwrenching ways. Honor the memories of the war dead and know that everyone suffers in a war.

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Make the Most of Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day is upon us and so I post a reminder to mothers everywhere to seize the moment and make your day enjoyable—for you. Yes, YOU take charge of the day. Sit back and enjoy … no laundry, cooking, chasing kids. Either go out to eat or, as I do, inform the spouse that you are not cooking and that he can plan what to do for dinner. Too many mothers wait for their families to do the tricks needed to make them happy, and too many mothers get disappointed. YOU know what you like, so do yourself and your family a favor and demystify the day by telling them what you want. Don’t be afraid of reminding them the day is coming and you’d love a card or a particular gift or meal. If other mothers in your family are in the picture, plan something you all can enjoy together or make Saturday or Monday your own private Mother’s Day. I learned from my stepmom long ago that I am in charge of my own happiness, and I deserve to be happy… at least one day a year!

Another thought is that this is a learning experience for the rest of the family—that Mom deserves a break from her 24/7 job(s) and that she is not afraid to stand her ground and get that break. This is really important for our girls to learn. Many women of my generation and older were raised to be the servant of the family, which is totally unfair! I don’t want my daughters thinking that. And sons need to see that they can and should do their part to make their mothers’ lives easier… my, what great husbands they’d grow up to be! Thoughtfulness is something that can be taught, and what nicer way than by making yourself the beneficiary.

Make yourself a very happy Mother’s Day.

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