Rachel Calof’s Story

Rachel Calof was a Russian Jew who traveled to America to an arranged marriage in rural North Dakota. In the 1930’s, when she was in her sixties, she wrote her story in Yiddish, looking back on her rough life on the plains in the 1890’s amidst harsh conditions. Her writing was discovered nearly 30 years after her death. It was translated and published mainly for the family, but historical researchers noticed the story and added scholarly notes as an addendum to the book. Many readers have been fascinated by Rachel’s well-written, detailed, and moving account of her life not only as one of the rural poor, but as a Jewish woman surviving on the lonely plains trying her best to keep her faith.

Rachel Calof’s Story is a learning experience that was almost lost – stored away in an old trunk, unseen, unnoticed for so many years. It is fortunate that Rachel’s daughter found her mother’s writing and understood the value of it, so that over thirty years after Rachel’s death she is able to tell us a story of perseverance and fortitude amidst the history of the Midwest. It is never too late.

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Losing a Parent – Is It Too Late?

What do you do if your grandparents or parents have passed away? Is it too late to discover their stories? Happily, the answer is no, not entirely. You yourself are a resource if you remember anything about their lives, any tidbits they might have told you. You can ask other family members, searching for clues from surviving spouse, siblings, cousins. Family friends are a great source of stories, too. Maybe there are old photos that are hopefully labeled; you can ask others about them, too. Perhaps the newspaper obituary included interesting information about your loved one’s past. You can also do some genealogy to gather further information.

Unless there is a diary left, for a remembrance of someone who is here no longer a scrapbook may be the best option for recording what you have of their life. Include the photos, a handwritten note or recipe, typed or hand-written stories from your own or others’ memories of them, and any mementos they might have saved. I have a lock of my grandmother’s hair, blond from her girlish days, which I treasure.

So yes, you can scrape together bits and pieces of a life and bind them together to reveal at least a little of who that person was. Something is better than nothing. And what a wonderful tribute to someone you have loved – to keep their memory alive not only for you, but for future generations of their family.

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WGNU Talk Radio Experience

The other day I was the guest on WGNU AM920 talk radio for the Women-Inspiring-Women “Authors on the Air” program, my first time on radio. It was a lot of fun chatting it up with the hosts of the show. The two women were fun and made me feel very comfortable – except for the microphone in my face and the annoying headphones, and the fact that I had to think before I spoke because who knows how many people were listening! That last is not exactly my strong point.

We spent an hour talking about Cherry Blossoms in Twilight and touched upon its significance in reminding us that war is hell and that everyone suffers. War is not just another video game. We wondered how the Iraqi, Afghan, Lebanese and Israeli citizens today live through the constant fear of death. It just seems like so many of the world’s government and military leaders will never learn to behave and play well with others… and it is the innocents who suffer.

We also talked about the value of capturing old memories, how they may seem so everyday to our elders yet they are living history to younger generations who mostly know nothing about “the old days.” I commented how so many of our WWII era seniors are passing away without leaving their stories – like a treasure chest that was never opened. I am hoping that you will take the time to open the treasure chest of your own parents or grandparents while they are still alive so that together you can run your fingers through the gold. Let the sharing and discovering begin.

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