Father’s Day

Posted on June 18, 2006 by moonbridgebooks

This morning our pastor Sue mentioned three famous fathers: Father Abraham, Atticus Finch, and Bill Cosby. All had/have the faith and the guts to stand up for what they believed in. In that great book, To Kill a Mockingbird, Atticus Finch says, “Before I can live with other folks, I’ve got to be able to live with myself. The one thing that doesn’t abide by majority rule is a person’s conscience.”

Many of our fathers taught us through words or action about how to be a strong person with a good moral foundation. My own father helped teach his daughters about good work ethics. We both tend to be perfectionists who are able to look beyond what we know to do and find other things that need to be done. “Trouble-shooting” is something I am quite good at. Daddy is also known for his gentleness and patience, yet he always let his little girls know limits. He held us to a high standard of behavior, leading with firmness if necessary… but usually all it took was “the voice” and we were skedaddling to do what we were told.

When I was a teen, I was stunned to learn that my own father was not a perfect human being. Fathers, like mothers, can only do the best they are able. Unfortunately, for various reasons some are not able to do much and the children suffer. They are human beings with human weaknesses. Sometimes we have to try to be understanding and forgiving. Fortunately, my father was always great dad to his girls. We love him so much.

Hopefully your father has given you good memories. This day I hope you have a reason to honor your father, or a father-figure in your life. One year I wrote a letter to my dad telling him all that I loved and appreciated about him. My sister wrote him a beautiful poem. He knows he is loved – now he has it in writing! I hope you let your own father know how loved he is.

Linda Austin
“Cherry Blossoms in Twilight”
http://www.moonbridgebooks.com
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Writing a Book

Posted on June 11, 2006 by moonbridgebooks

Writing a book is the most difficult way of recording memories; it does require writing skills, and is the most time-consuming and most expensive method of producing your family treasure. If you are writing it strictly for your own family, you can get away with having less literary skills and less book-production knowledge, but I still recommend learning as much as you can about writing a book – from how to organize it, how to interview, the types of meaningful information to gather, how to put it all into an enjoyable and easy-to-read story with a specific audience in mind. And find someone with good spelling and grammar skills to look it over and make corrections.

I used Microsoft Word set for pages sized 9 by 6 inches, which is a cost-efficient size for book printing. Use a typical font such as Times New Roman or Arial, although I used Palatino Linotype because it looks “friendly” and is very easy on the eyes. Hopefully you know how to set a paragraph – I have seen self-made books with extremely long paragraphs which not only look bad on a page but make for a difficult and annoying read. If you have publishing software, your job of writing and adding photos will be easier, and the print shops do generally prefer pdf files. My MS Word file transferred over well, though.

Writing a book also requires a lot of material. Cherry Blossom in Twilight at 100 pages is a very slim book, which makes it more difficult for the machines to cut the binding nicely. If you have fewer pages than that, I suggest making a booklet. It may well take you several years of writing to produce a book, so be sure that you really want to invest that kind of time and intensity of effort, and that you will have enough stories, photos, and extra details.

As with writing a booklet, ask good questions, get added details, and a sense of how your family member felt about events and experiences because those sensory and emotional details will really make your book into a fascinating read versus a cold just-the-facts production. It is a good idea to assume your readers know nothing about this person and their life, so add those details and explanations… someday great-great-great grandchildren will be your readers!

(see previous entries for tips on scrapbooking, videotaping, creating booklets)

Linda Austin
“Cherry Blossoms in Twilight”
http://www.moonbridgebooks.com
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Allen Say Autobiographical Stories

Posted on June 4, 2006 by moonbridgebooks

During the last few weeks of school while helping out at my daughter’s elementary school library, I checked out some Allen Say books to read to my youngest child as well as my elderly mother. Mr. Say is the author/illustrator of lovely children’s stories such as “Grandfather’s Journey,” and he illustrated the fun “How My Parents Learned to Eat” by Ina Friedman. Quite a few of his books are autobiographical, telling the stories of his boyhood experiences or of his Asian-heritage parents. My Japanese-born mother is very charmed by his “Kamishibai Man” which draws out her own childhood memories, and with “Tea With Milk,” the story of how his parents met. She has fallen in love with his illustrations of Japanese life.

Mr. Say has received the Caldecott Medal for his illustrations. In his acceptance speech, he mentions that when he first began writing children’s stories he wanted to “build a bridge” between the Japanese and American cultures. Although he soon abandoned that ambition calling it a “pompous, self-serving delusion,” I feel that some of his books build a bridge quite well. One of the reasons I want to make educators aware of my mother’s autobiography, “Cherry Blossoms in Twilight” is because of its ability to build understanding between peoples. The more we learn about another culture and its people, the more we are able to realize that underneath the apparent differences, we all experience the same feelings of love, joy, fear, anxiety. We are all human beings bonded by our human sensitivities and experiences.

If you have an immigration story in your family, or a story of love between two people of different heritages, there are wonderful lessons there. Ask about those stories, learn about the cultures, hear about the difficulties of accepting differences. Above all, remember how you have loved the people in your life who are different – in spite of, or even because of, those differences.

Linda Austin
“Cherry Blossoms in Twilight”
http://www.moonbridgebooks.com
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