Spring Flowers

My stepmother was looking through the book Moments: The Pulitzer Prize Winning Photographs by Hal Buell and David Halberstam. She noted that most of the photos were powerful and intense depictions of sadness and she began to compare her life to the lives of the people in those photos, thinking how easy she has it.

My stepmom is a saint who has been pretty much the sole caretaker of a number of elderly relatives. Currently she has one remaining dear one to look after – her very elderly mother who has been in the hospital lately. Although many nights my stepmom wearily bemoans her life sacrificed to others’ needs, by morning she seems refreshed and ready to love anew. I don’t know how she does it… year after year, often with several needy souls at the same time.
She says this life is her choice, and she knows how her choices make an important impact on the lives of others. “How often would any of you want to sit for hours on end in the hospital while spring blooms and gardens call and there is so much to do?” But, she says, “I guess it is time to go to bed with a prayer of thanks and blessing for my Mom. She is more precious than any spring time flowers.”

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Memorial Day – Storytelling Around the Grill


During this upcoming three-day-weekend of fun, food, and family time, let’s stop to remember those who have passed on before us, especially those lives lost in service of our country. It makes me sad to hear of so many of our elders passing on without leaving the treasures of their stories behind. So much “real” history lost. It’s something to be aware of, and it is important to remember that time passes so we should not wait too long before asking questions of our older generations. While we are eating barbecue and corn-on-the-cob with family and friends, we can think to ask – “so what was life like when you were young?” Have some fun and ask everyone, young and old, to take a turn telling one story of when they were little (or littler). Instead of telling stories around a campfire, we can tell stories around the grill. Don’t forget the marshmallows!

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An Hour With Kevin Henkes

This week I had the thrill of attending a Kevin Henkes author event, sharing the excitement with my youngest daughter. What a great mother-daughter learning experience. We are big fans of the man who created Lily’s Purple Plastic Purse, among other delightful children’s stories. Lily’s Big Day is his latest book and it is wonderful. Mr. Henkes spent some time explaining his creative writing process, and I thought his methods would be useful in creating any book – including memoirs. I inadvertently used these methods in writing my mother’s memories for the Cherry Blossoms in Twilight book.

Many authors have a writer’s notebook, or at least carry paper with them in order to capture any thoughts of the moment, any interesting phrases or tidbits that pop into their mind. These bits and pieces are stored for future reference, sometimes for years before they might become a part of a story. Mr. Henkes also will put away a concept, a part or even a whole story that he is not satisfied with, coming back to it later – yes, sometimes years later – to look at it with fresh eyes.

I spoke to my dad the other day, asking him how he was doing with his own memoir. He was a little frustrated because often one memory would lead to other snippets of memories and he didn’t have time to fill out details or put them in some sort of order. I told him not to bother. The first part of writing is to collect ideas. THEN, put the ideas in order and THEN flesh them out. Just as Mr. Henkes does, capture the essence of breezes that wisp through the mind. Look back on them later, enjoy the thoughts and feelings that come to mind – and then write in earnest.

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