Mother’s Day Gift of Words and Love

One Mother’s Day, my stepmom decided to throw a special gathering for her elderly mom. Great MaMa had many grand- and great-grandkids who could celebrate her being. My stepmom asked us to write down some memories, stories, poems about MaMa to share. I decided to write a poem about mothers in general, knowing that MaMa was similar in many ways to my own mother – a strong character who, despite a fragile appearance and often demure ways, could be very motherly and opinionated. Though sometimes difficult to live with, our mothers deeply love us. They come with their own backgrounds of pains and joys that create their personalities and can only do the best they know how (and are able) to lead their children to be good people. None is perfect, they can only try in their own way; and now that I see how hard it is to be a mother myself, I can forgive the imperfections.

My stepmom was onto something though. What a great gift to someone you love to put that love down in writing. What a joy and comfort to them to hold a little story of love that lifts their spirits and reminds them that their lives mean something to someone… a scrap of paper that can be pulled out when needed to brighten a day. So often we wait until too late to express our appreciation. Why not freely give out hugs and love now, while they are useful and enjoyed!

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Reading Out Loud – Bonding With Your Child (or Spouse)

My youngest daughter loves for me to read aloud to her, as did my oldest until she became a busy teen. Both girls are somewhat lazy readers preferring others to do the reading work or to see the movie versions instead, but they really enjoy hearing the stories come alive as I read – with feeling! By varying tone and speed, using different voices and dialect, those little words on the pages can become magical. My youngest daughter and I are taking a beginning Spanish class together, so we’re even reading some simple Spanish/English children’s stories (I can do the accent pretty well from previous lessons years ago). I’d like to encourage “read-alouders” to use those techniques – yes, be bold and break out of your conservative mode because not only will your listeners be spellbound, but you will enjoy the feeling of “bustin’ loose! It’s fun!

My dad and stepmom, retired “old people,” enjoy taking turns reading aloud to each other during quiet times at home or during road trips. It may keep them occupied as miles pass by on their trips, but it is also time to share and bond as they take turns speaking and listening to each other and discuss their thoughts about the book. The last book they read together was “Memoirs of a Geisha”; Dad, having spent military time stationed in Japan some years after WWII, was the expert at pronouncing the strange words. They could better understand the movie as well as compare book to movie.

So perhaps we’re never too old to read to each other. It takes a willingness to spend quiet time together – what a rarity in today’s world, but the reward is worth it.

Here is a link to Jim Trelease’s website (of The Read-Aloud Handbook fame) for tips on reading to children: http://www.trelease-on-reading.com/rah_chpt4_p1.html

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Lilacs in Bloom


Oh, the air is sweet! I have a Korean lilac in my backyard, and when the flowers bloom that heavenly fragrance takes me back to childhood to a time when I used to hide among the tall stems of lilac bushes pretending I was hidden to the world. Our backyard was lined with old-fashioned lilacs – Syringa vulgaris – an ugly name for what I thought was a beautiful shrub. The flowers are larger than those of Korean or Persian lilacs, the leaves bigger and bluer. The stems are sturdier, like slim tree trunks, but gnarled. Our lilac border was the perfect place to pretend I was sneaking through a forest, like a deer in the shadows.

Smells, sights, and sounds can bring back memories. If you are working on a memoir – scrapbook, video, or book – be sure to use sensory details to bring the stories alive. Factual accounts are wonderfully colored by the addition of thoughts, feelings, and the use of the five senses.

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