My Sister’s Keeper and the scrapbook filled with memories

For those who saw the movie My Sister’s Keeper, didn’t you love the scrapbook young Kate made for her family? The dying girl pasted up a scrapbook so filled with photo cutouts you could hardly see the background paper and added comments so bare that yet pulled strings of memories and feelings out. This is a movie and obviously the scrapbook was professionally done, but we can sure take away some ideas from it.

Everyone has their own style of scrapbooking, but those with tidy or sparser styles may like to experiment with that collage look. After all, a scrapbook only has so many pages, why not fill them to the max? Kate’s pages carried many photos of one theme on one page. She had a set of pages devoted to each member of her family. Many of the photos were close-ups with the backgrounds cut out to focus on faces. The result was a fun circus of eye candy and a sweet remembrance of laughter and tears.

Kate’s scrapbook was meant for her immediate family with whom she experienced all of her short life’s events with, so she did not have to add the where and when details. The comments she added were sparse and poignant, but they were all that was needed. Most scrapbooks are done to capture memories of children who might forget, of family events to permanently preserve them, perhaps for generations, so the details need to be added. But, that shouldn’t stop us from filling around the facts, the stories, the written down feelings.

The movie My Sister’s Keeper may be controversial because the ending is different from the book, and because it just doesn’t seem very realistic, but if you rent or buy it, do a freeze-frame and take a long look at how the scrapbook was done. Maybe you’d like to take notes for the next time you scrapbook, or perhaps use some of those techniques in photo albums – think of each slot for a photo as a tiny scrapbook page. Don’t over do it, just do what you want for your taste.

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How does your family say Happy New Year?

Akemashite omedeto gozaimasu! The other day I was able to learn more about the Japanese way of celebrating the new year at an event organized by a group of young Japanese mothers;’ many of their husbands are here temporarily with a local university. I met a young Japanese man, permanently living in the States, who brought his daughter, Sophie, along with Sophie’s American grandmother (the mother was a teacher who could not take a leave from her students). The young man wanted his daughter to learn about the Japanese half of her heritage. As I was a grown up daughter wanting to learn more about the Japanese half of my heritage, I was very happy that Sophie could experience such an event. Those living here in St. Louis are lucky to have many heritages embracing their cultures with special events open to the public. I plan to attend an upcoming Japanese storytelling theater presentation and even went to a Swedish Santa Lucia celebration in December even though I’m not the least bit Swedish.
The most fun way of learning about our heritage is to hear the stories of our parents or grandparents, especially if they are immigrants who can tell first-person stories of their home country and its traditions. Attending local events of one’s culture is a treat, even if it is necessary to travel a little to a nearby city or plan a vacation around a cultural celebration. Online searches can help find events or associations for specific heritages (search for the culture followed by “American association,” ex. Irish American association OR the state name followed by the culture, ex. Indiana Scottish). Here are a few general sites I found:
Swedish Council of America, with affiliates in many cities
Garam Chai website for all things Indian (India) in the U.S.
And while we are talking about heritage and culture, please donate to help Haiti recover from the earthquake devastation.
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Getting ready for the new year by contemplating the past

Michael Hyatt, CEO of Thomas Nelson Publishers, a Christian publishing company, has a wonderful blog post addressing this time of the year between Christmas and New Year’s which, he says, is one of the most unproductive times of the year. (I beg to differ as that’s when I get caught up on a lot.) Businesses get quiet as employees and customers take time off, kids are at home and underfoot, only the retailers are scurrying (hopefully). Hyatt tells us this is a time to reflect on the past year as we look forward to the future, and follows with Seven Questions to Ask About Last Year:

1. If the last year were made into a movie of your life, what would the genre be?

2. What were the two or three major themes that kept recurring

3. What did you accomplish this past year that you are most proud of?

4. What do you feel you should have been acknowledged for but weren’t?

5. What disappointments or regrets did you experience this past year?

6. What was missing from this past year as you look back?

7. What were the major life lessons you learned this past year?

These are perfect questions for anyone interested in life writing, even if you are not planning to start life writing soon. Writing down the answers to all or even some of these questions is making a roadmap of the trip you have taken, marking in yellow the important landmarks, creating a guide to your own life that you or others may want to examine later. Grab a notebook and visit Mr. Hyatt’s post.

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