Jim Ballard – What is a memory?


Jim Ballard is a nationally known life coach, a motivational speaker, and an author (Little Wave and Old Swell, Mind Like Water, and others). His fables challenge readers to manage their minds to generate joy by letting go of the whirlwinds of life. Jim’s blog, Coach Jim, offers encouragements for the day – a good day. Jim will be featured here in a 3-part series defining memory, making memory, and living memory. The word “memory” can be teased apart into strands that encompass more than just a factual occurrence.

Part 1: What is a Memory?

Before speaking of creating memories, what is it about a memory that would make us want more of them? When we recall a “precious” memory in a nostalgic way we’re doing more than just recollecting something, like what we had for breakfast. So, what is the difference between a memory and something merely recalled?

A memory has personal meaning.
A memory helps us remember something about ourselves that is notable. It may evoke a value, such as friendship, fun or travel. It may bring loved ones closer. It may call to mind an event that was special.

A memory evokes positive feeling.
What we call a memory is important because it makes us feel good. It may recall a special place or time, or it may bring tears because it touches the heart. It may recall a difficult time, but recreate the good feeling of having overcome odds.

A memory helps us define who we are.
It may even have the importance of what some call a defining moment. Recalling what we’ve achieved can help us face a present challenge. The memory of one who inspired us can do that again.

Stay tuned as later this week Jim discusses the interesting concept of creating good memories. Do we have control over our memories?

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Superior Scribbler Award

Surprise! I have been honored to receive a Superior Scribbler Award from fellow life writing blogger Sharon Lippincott (The Heart and Craft of Life Writing). This award has been in the blogosphere since October 2008 when The Scholastic Scribe, a high school journalism teacher and blogger, thought to share bloggy love with other scribbly writers. It’s always nice to know others are reading and enjoying your scribbles, because sometimes you can’t tell. Thanks, Sharon! Now, as part of the requirements of accepting the award, I must pass on the Superior Scribbler Award to five other super bloggers, and here they are:

Lisa Yanucci’s Mama Lisa’s World of cultural fun and learning
Mitali Perkins’ Mitali’s Fire Escape of multicultural book chats and poetry
Vivian’s Hip Writer Mama manages her writing life with kids
Katia Novet Saint-Lot’s Scribbly Katia writing from India about the world
Ronni Bennett’s Time Goes By for those who like being older and wiser

Here are the rules for passing on the Superior Scribbler Award:

1. Each Superior Scribbler must in turn pass The Award on to 5 most-deserving Bloggy Friends.

2. Each Superior Scribbler must link to the author and the name of the blog from whom he/she has received the Award.

3. Each Superior Scribbler must display the Award on his/her blog, and link to this post, (http://scholastic-scribe.blogspot.com/2008/10/200-this-blings-for-you.html ) which explains the Award.

4. Each Blogger who wins The Superior Scribbler Award must visit this post and add his/her name to the Mr. Linky List. That way, we’ll be able to keep up-to-date on everyone who receives This Prestigious Honor!

5. Each Superior Scribbler must post these rules on his/her blog.

Let’s see if some of my five respond. Some, I’m sure, don’t even know I stop by their blogs.

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Tips for writing your story

Carol Newman is a writing coach specializing in life story writing. She is The Angel in Your Inkwell. If you’re ever around Mission, Kansas, sign up for one of her writing classes. For those not in Kansas, Carol’s website offers a good resource of tips for writing your own life story or that of a family member. How do I organize the story, how can I combine husband and wife stories, how do I find a story line, how do I handle transitions, how do I write about my difficult parents?

Don’t let questions like these daunt you. The point is to start writing and let it flow in any order it comes to you, get the details. THEN look at the pieces to see how it all fits together. Read some books on memoir writing, such as Tristine Ranier’s Your Life as Story, or Lisa Dale Norton’s Shimmering Images or Sharon Lippincott’s The Heart and Craft of Lifestory Writing. Read other memoirs as examples. Take a workshop – many colleges have adult education evening classes. Find a writing coach in your area. Above all, have fun creating something your family will treasure. Even if you don’t think it’s a literary masterpiece, it will be a masterpiece to those who love you.

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