The Longest Trip Home – Good or Boring?

Not long ago my daughter and I saw the movie Marley & Me. I thought it was great, at least from the viewpoint of one who hadn’t read the book first. I like dogs, but mostly I like how they go home with other people, so I remained horrified by the destructive, misbehaving Marley. I do, however, have an aged and ill Labrador mix who is as mild-mannered and sweet as they come so the movie’s ending was a painful reminder of a sad day approaching. Mostly, though, I enjoyed watching the maturing of the husband-wife relationship.

So now there’s another Grogan memoir out. How many memoirs should one person write? The Longest Trip Home has disappointed some Marley fans in that there is no dog there. It has also disappointed others because it is about common life experiences…we’ve all heard about ruler-whacking nuns, voyeuristic teen boys, and young adults who abandon the religion they were brought up in. Chauncey Mabe, Sun Sentinel book reviewer, complains that the book lacks the misery of best-selling memoirs (mis-mems) such as Angela’s Ashes or Running With Scissors and suggests Grogan could have written a fictitious version – a novel – with added angst that could have better sustained interest and got the same points across about relationships. On the other hand, The Book Lady loved The Longest Trip Home, calling it “refreshing and wonderful” compared to the usual trauma-filled memoirs. She states the book is “a testament to the idea that all of our life stories are important and have something to offer.” Hear, hear. I would argue that Marley is about common life experiences, too, and the dog is what sells it so well.

So what do YOU think about Grogan’s Trip?

To read a great interview with John Grogan on BookReads, click here.

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The Great Recession, The Great Depression

So we’re in a recession that our economic leaders were afraid to tell us about for a year. Fear breeds more fear, and this reminds me of the Great Depression when fear ran rampant and helped destroy the stock market and people’s lives.

The Depression years left a huge mark that carried over to the next generation. My mother to this day hoards basics such as canned goods, shampoo and tissues – just in case. And I am like her in scraping out the contents of near-empty jars and saving leftovers no matter how small. “Don’t waste food,” I always heard growing up, as well as the implied “Don’t waste money” as my mother would drive the path from Jewel to Kroger to Honiotes grocery stores, coupons and sale papers in hand, aiming for the bargains. Many who made it through the Depression came to think that having money was most important and they would work hard and live smart so they would be ready for the next hard times and so their children would never have to go without.

A fellow lifewriting devotee queued me in on “Conversations With America,” a collection of the late Studs Terkel’s interviews with people across the country which he used as a resource for his many books and radio programs. Taken from the website, part of the Chicago History Museum site:

“Studs Terkel is regarded as the great spiritual father of oral history…his ongoing legacy is built … on his interview style and two powerful convictions that informed them: First, that the common person had profound experiences in everyday life and could speak about them in a compelling and illuminating fashion if they were asked; and second, that the American people deserved to have a voice and share with their fellow citizens their different perspectives about social injustice, civic issues, intolerance, and personal struggles.”

Terkel’s recordings used for his book “Hard Times” include an interview with a physician in a public health clinic who noted (in the second half of the recording) how the poor came as usual, the occasional rich person (now the “well-dressed destitute”) would park their fancy car down the street a bit and walk to the clinic so the social workers wouldn’t think they still had the means to pay, while the middle-class (now poor) people were too ashamed to come at all and so suffered from lack of health care. People were fainting in the streets from hunger, eating scraps from dumpsters while thousands of pounds of wheat were being dumped into the Chicago River. You will need Real Player, which can be downloaded free (see the website for a link), to listen to these interviews.

The interviews are historic and priceless, but you probably have some historic and priceless memories locked up inside your own parent or grandparent, aunt, family friend or neighbor. Or maybe there is treasure within your own memories. Is it story time?

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Obama Hopes and Memories

Surely everyone but the most cynical of Republicans couldn’t help but be excited by the hopes of a Brave New World as Barack Obama was sworn in as our 44th President today. Even President Bush seemed happy (I’d be happy to leave big messes to someone else, too!). Will you remember this day forever? Where were you, what did you think, what did you feel? Did you like the poem, did you love Aretha’s song? Did you have tears, did you have doubts? Did you impress anything upon your children this day? What stories will you tell about this day to your grandchildren? And how will those stories be coloured after four years of Obama’s presidency?

What a beautiful family we have in the White House now. Fresh, young, intelligent, attractive, and so historically meaningful. It is easy to expect big changes, but I hope no one expects miracles – Barack really doesn’t walk on water, and he will not be able to feed the 5000 with a few fishes and loaves. The only real miracle he provides is the one that has been in hearts around the world since November. Downtrodden, cynical, tired hearts have been recharged by the electric thought of a jump start in America, the country that most affects the world. Agree with Obama’s democratic beliefs or not, we can smell the change in the air and can feel tremors of excitement as we face the near future. One man cannot do it all alone, not all of us will be made happy, not all the problems fixed, but may our hearts continue to be fed by the miracle of hope, and may we be left with good memories of the Obama years.

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