Traveling With Kids

How old is too young to travel? Well, at least get the kids out of diapers! So says Maureen Wheeler of Lonely Planet guidebook fame who also thinks kids should be able to eat table food and talk before you bother taking them anywhere really special, unless it’s a Disney cruise. That makes for much less trouble for the parents. According to Ms. Wheeler, ages 7 to10 is the minimum age for children to accompany you on a once-in-a-lifetime trip.

I don’t remember everything about my own childhood family vacation trips, but the photos bring back bits of memories and feelings that I now treasure, like donkeys sticking their rather scary big heads through our car window in the Black Hills of South Dakota, or how chipmunks put their paws in our hamster’s cage looking for sunflower seeds when we camped in Estes Park, Colorado, how showers of shooting stars arced across the night sky out in the wilderness. I remember how great it was to spend a lot of time seeing and doing cool stuff with my parents—and even with my little sister.

Traveling is an important way to teach kids about different cultures, different lifestyles, and different environments whether you are discovering the land of Africa or busy, cosmopolitan New York City or the steamy geysers at Yellowstone. Starting kids out exploring at a young age teaches them flexibility and acceptance and may instill a sense of adventure and excitement, instead of fear and apprehension, at the thought of something new. It might spark a sense of curiosity and a love of learning. And all that goes for grown-ups, too.

See http://www.takingthekids.com/ by travel columnist Eileen Ogintz for great travel tips

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ReWriting History

The Wall Street Journal had a July 6 article entitled “A Do-Over for Russian History?” which exposed that in Russia a new manual for teachers of students in their final year of high school retells events of the past sixty years according to the current Kremlin way of thinking. The manual uses Kremlin opinion as fact, for example stating the U.S. is “trying to build a ‘global empire’ under the guise of spreading democracy.” Ok, maybe some U.S. citizens believe that, too, but it is actually opinion and not fact. Another teacher’s guide explains that Stalin’s purges and creation of camps for political prisoners were done to make the Soviet Union strong, according the the Journal, which opines that Putin is attempting to “breed ultranationalism and whitewash the darkest chapters of Russia’s past.” I believe Japan has been accused of the same in the last few years, also using school history textbooks as its tool.

Reading about how history books can have a hidden, or not-so-hidden, agenda really makes me want to shout to everyone how important our individual stories are and how so many of our experiences ought to be recorded in writing or on tape. What we are taught in school we believe as fact, but sometimes those “facts” are not the whole story, or they are a twisting of the story or perhaps there are even deletions of important stories. I believe this also goes for what we read in the newspapers and what we see on TV news. Some countries are better at telling the truth than others, but nonetheless people around the world must do their part to keep alive the truth of their own experiences. As Scott Ginsberg said in his blog, mentioned in an earlier post here, “If you don’t write it down it never happened.” If you don’t write it down, someone else might and change the story.

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Men Are From Mars, But They Can Sing, Too

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus — you’ve heard of the book. Last Sunday it was a sermon. I was visiting my family again around the July Fourth holiday and as usual attended the Crosswinds Church in Plainfield. Pastor John (the nuclear engineer) gave such a great talk: It’s a Guy Thing, Part II. We were all laughing and nodding. He reiterated some of the points that John Gray made in his book about the differences between the ways men and women think and behave, but drove home the idea that those differences can actually allow for harmony in our relationships. We may think of that harmony as being complementary to each other, strong points and weak points of each working together and balancing out, but Pastor John likened the harmony to a song: the different “notes” of our relationships stand out yet come together to make our life song more beautiful. We need to respect each others differences, listen to each others “notes” and adapt to each other to create that great song.

I sometimes play guitar and sing harmony with a male friend at our church’s quiet Stillpoint service. During our early days of practicing, I realized how important it is to listen to the other’s voice so as to work with it, making sure no one drowns the other out and that our notes concur in some parts and diverge in other parts — each voice noticeably different and yet together beautiful (well, we try). Sometimes we take turns leading and following. Pastor John’s wife does sing with the church band, but I’m not sure he realizes exactly how right on he was in his sermon. We all came away with a greater understanding of what makes a relationship great. In the end, though, he reminded us that even if we succeed in making beautiful songs together, God is the only one who can truly complete us for the ultimate in harmony.

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