Finding The Perfect Prom Dress

During the kids’ spring break, we went up to the Chicago area to help my sister celebrate her birthday. While we were visiting, my teen daughter insisted on looking for prom dresses hoping to find one that would be unique back in her home town. She and her cousin searched a few shops, eschewing the less-expensive department stores and going for the higher end dress shops to my dismay. I had warned them I would not pay several hundred dollars for a gown that wasn’t a wedding dress! Well, they finally found something they liked and returned just as dinner was set to fetch me, the owner of the credit card. Daughter, mother and grandmother immediately rushed to the next town to approve this special treasure and capture it before anyone else could.

Oh, it is lovely. As my daughter modeled in the hallway we all oohed and ahhed. My sister showed me how to set the modest train once shoes were bought, and then sewed some loose beads in more firmly as I watched and learned. It was quite an exciting experience for all us girls, and so fun to have my mother, sister and niece share it with us.

My daughter will be paying part of the cost, but it wasn’t as bad as I feared. My mother commented on the beautifully elegant white gown saying that perhaps if my daughter did not gain weight she could save the dress to get married in! Well, that’s a good thought for us cheapskates.

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One Wedding and a Funeral

Our family recently delighted in a wedding, not so common these days as all of us “kids” are getting middle-aged yet our own kids are too young for marriage. Our home was filled with an extra five children and a couple adults. Even though things were hectic and the bathroom doors revolved, I enjoyed it all. Fortunately the bride and groom and mothers were not unduly stressed, for the most part. It was wonderful to see so many family members at once – some I rarely see even though we live in the same town.

Most recently, my in-laws were here for the weekend, recovering from caring for a relative during a lengthy illness that culminated in a funeral. During visitation, an elderly aunt brought there from the nursing home was so happy to see her extended family from near and far. Times of sadness can also bring our beloveds together again in caring, and the sad can become joy.

It is good to be together sharing smiles and stories and the warmth of hugs. In our busy lives it is important to take a break from all the running and reconnect with our families – not just for weddings and funerals.

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Poetry for Children

As I volunteer in my daughter’s elementary school library, sometimes I check out a book I find that might interest her and expand her horizons. A few weeks ago I found “Cool Melons – Turn to Frogs,” a colorful book by Matthew Gollub about the famous Japanese haiku poet Issa. Beautifully illustrated in art by Kazuko Stone and by Issa’s own haiku, this is a thoughtful look at the rather sad life of a sensitive man. My daughter enjoyed the poems as they related to the simple story set in a different culture, and I thought I might shed a tear as I learned what was behind some of the poems: “O wild goose, how young were you when you set out alone.”

Another children’s poetry book we both really enjoyed was “Winter Eyes,” one of many delightful and fun poetry books by Douglas Florian. This is filled with rhyming, rhythmic creations about all things winter: “…Icicles are winter’s arrows, pointing out the crows and sparrows…”

Finally, “Joyful Noise: Poems for Two Voices” by Paul Fleischman is a fun poetry book for children who are adequate readers. This book is a collection of poems about insects that HAS to be shared as each person reads their own part of each poem… sometimes reading together in tandem, sometimes reading different parts at the same time, sometimes taking turns. It really is fun, and you have to pay attention!

Kids study poetry in school, and reading poetry at home helps them better learn to enjoy this artistic form of writing. It is a nice thought that we might raise a child that is sensitive enough to his or her own thoughts and feelings and creative enough to be able to express them in the form of a poem.

“The teacher told us first we must get close to nature, to hear or see things, and then bring the feeling inside ourselves… those feelings make haiku poetry” – “Cherry Blossoms in Twilight

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