Family Newsletters… like Fruitcake?

Yesterday’s “Dear Abby” had a letter from someone who hated reading those newsletters that arrive with the Christmas cards. Abby reminded the person that the trash can is available. I think she missed the point. Why do people dislike those newsletters that come but once a year telling them how their friends have been doing? If you don’t care about someone’s life, why are you friends with them? Why are they on your Christmas card list?

Ok, some people do not write fun newsletters. Some newsletters drone on and on; but, there is a method of reading called “skimming.” Many newsletters sound like a brag session; if you are intimidated, you might want to work on your own self-esteem. Other people’s good fortune is not a reflection on you and has little direct relationship to happiness or the true meaning of success.

Each year I enjoy reading the few newsletters we get. Most are from people I never see or speak to all year, but were an important part of our lives at one time. I like hearing the basics about their lives, finding out who the kids are growing up to be, and especially seeing photo printouts of their happy faces. Our neighbor sends a newsletter sprinkled with humor as her two sons are bright, clever characters definitely worth writing about.

I enjoy getting those newsletters. I know people who ASK their old friends for news, any news about their lives. What I don’t enjoy is getting a Christmas card from a faraway friend and there is nothing but a signature…

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Family Trip to the Art Museum

Our youngest daughter brought home an interesting brochure from her school fieldtrip to our local art museum, so we decided to take a family trip to the museum, bringing along my mother, too. Now, the adults in our family are not big fans of modern art, so the stroll through that area gave us mixed opinions. My daughter and I marveled, however, at Tara Donovan’s “Haze” which is a wall of white soda straws stacked to look like a cloud, or like choppy waves. The open ends of the straws face viewers and although the surface of this piece actually looks solid, by moving our heads to look at different sections, the open straw ends would appear like magic, reminding us of honeycombs.

We also saw Tara Donovan’s “Plastic Cups” exhibit where a whole small room was filled with stacked cups arranged to form a low mountain range. We all wanted to touch the cups to see if they were glued together. The museum guard must have had quite a job making sure a roomful of school kids didn’t touch that exhibit! It was really fun to see what can be done with mere plasticware.

My mother and I spent some time looking at a wall-sized work by Anselm Kiefer called “Burning Rods.” This is a charred landscape of paint, ceramic, iron, copper, lead and straw that is meant to portray Chernobyl – land ravaged by nuclear disaster. This work attracted us like moths to a flame; the burnt colors, the peeling flesh of paint and metal. It reminded my mother of the horrors she saw at the Nagasaki Atomic Bomb Museum fifteen years ago. For her, the Anselm Kiefer piece spoke to her of the unspeakable.

Finally, we journeyed through a special exhibit of wood carvings done by the natives of New Ireland, a small group of islands a ways off Australia. The carvings were beautifully and amazingly intricate. I read the plaques to my daughter and tried to explain the culture to her and my mother. I had to laught as my mom kept refering to the pieces as “modern art.” Together we learned about the fascinating, colorful, and imaginative life of another world.

I wasn’t sure how this trip to the art museum would set with my young active daughter and my elder mother, who only likes conservative paintings, but it went well. My husband was able to disappear and visit the old European paintings which he is happiest exploring. I think we all had an eye-opening time though, learning together, exposing ourselves to something different. Every once in a while we need to grow our minds.

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The Ice Storm Cometh

Well, what a week of weather! One day it is balmy enough to wear short pants, the next day we are scraping ice off the cars! School was called off Friday and many people were without power. I spent a lot of time chipping away at a 2-inch glacier on the windshield of our van only to uncover an arching crack across it, compliments of water expanding into ice in a little chip where gravel had hit the windshield. On the other hand, the sun today is making our iced trees shine like Christmas ornaments.

On cold, snowy winter days it is so nice to look out at the beauty from the warmth of indoors. It’s the perfect time to stay in and play a board game with the kids, decorate for the holidays, or bake cookies to help warm the house. Today I made dough from Auntie Kris’ famous gingerbread cookie recipe. The kids like to help, especially to watch the batter fizz up after pouring in the warm water mixed with baking soda (this recipe came from a chemistry class). My sister took the opportunity to write out her Christmas cards, which can also be a family activity – kids can put on the stamps and return address labels and add holiday stickers.

I hope this season finds everyone keeping warm, not only in the body but in the heart.

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