An Hour With Kevin Henkes

This week I had the thrill of attending a Kevin Henkes author event, sharing the excitement with my youngest daughter. What a great mother-daughter learning experience. We are big fans of the man who created Lily’s Purple Plastic Purse, among other delightful children’s stories. Lily’s Big Day is his latest book and it is wonderful. Mr. Henkes spent some time explaining his creative writing process, and I thought his methods would be useful in creating any book – including memoirs. I inadvertently used these methods in writing my mother’s memories for the Cherry Blossoms in Twilight book.

Many authors have a writer’s notebook, or at least carry paper with them in order to capture any thoughts of the moment, any interesting phrases or tidbits that pop into their mind. These bits and pieces are stored for future reference, sometimes for years before they might become a part of a story. Mr. Henkes also will put away a concept, a part or even a whole story that he is not satisfied with, coming back to it later – yes, sometimes years later – to look at it with fresh eyes.

I spoke to my dad the other day, asking him how he was doing with his own memoir. He was a little frustrated because often one memory would lead to other snippets of memories and he didn’t have time to fill out details or put them in some sort of order. I told him not to bother. The first part of writing is to collect ideas. THEN, put the ideas in order and THEN flesh them out. Just as Mr. Henkes does, capture the essence of breezes that wisp through the mind. Look back on them later, enjoy the thoughts and feelings that come to mind – and then write in earnest.

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Find Your Party Pants!

For her birthday, I gave my sister the book Life is Short, Wear Your Party Pants by Loretta Laroche. Loretta is a stress management consultant who wrote this fun and inspiring book to help us women recognize patterns of negative thinking, turn them around and let loose – have some fun! Almost every mother of young kids could use this book.

My sister seems often overwhelmed with her busy life, as many of us can relate to. Now, I like to ask her, “did you put your party pants on today?” In order to survive, we’ve got to smile, to laugh, to give ourselves a little down time… life’s too short!


My sister is trying. She says she doesn’t have party pants, only “party socks.” Well, that’s okay – put on the party socks and dance with the husband. He’s probably stressed, too!

So all you moms out there, I hope you are making plans to relax and enjoy your Mother’s Day. I’m going to get my husband to grill me a steak and bake me a potato. And I am NOT going to clean up – I’ll have my good party pants on!


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Mother’s Day Gift of Words and Love

One Mother’s Day, my stepmom decided to throw a special gathering for her elderly mom. Great MaMa had many grand- and great-grandkids who could celebrate her being. My stepmom asked us to write down some memories, stories, poems about MaMa to share. I decided to write a poem about mothers in general, knowing that MaMa was similar in many ways to my own mother – a strong character who, despite a fragile appearance and often demure ways, could be very motherly and opinionated. Though sometimes difficult to live with, our mothers deeply love us. They come with their own backgrounds of pains and joys that create their personalities and can only do the best they know how (and are able) to lead their children to be good people. None is perfect, they can only try in their own way; and now that I see how hard it is to be a mother myself, I can forgive the imperfections.

My stepmom was onto something though. What a great gift to someone you love to put that love down in writing. What a joy and comfort to them to hold a little story of love that lifts their spirits and reminds them that their lives mean something to someone… a scrap of paper that can be pulled out when needed to brighten a day. So often we wait until too late to express our appreciation. Why not freely give out hugs and love now, while they are useful and enjoyed!

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