Reading Out Loud – Bonding With Your Child (or Spouse)

My youngest daughter loves for me to read aloud to her, as did my oldest until she became a busy teen. Both girls are somewhat lazy readers preferring others to do the reading work or to see the movie versions instead, but they really enjoy hearing the stories come alive as I read – with feeling! By varying tone and speed, using different voices and dialect, those little words on the pages can become magical. My youngest daughter and I are taking a beginning Spanish class together, so we’re even reading some simple Spanish/English children’s stories (I can do the accent pretty well from previous lessons years ago). I’d like to encourage “read-alouders” to use those techniques – yes, be bold and break out of your conservative mode because not only will your listeners be spellbound, but you will enjoy the feeling of “bustin’ loose! It’s fun!

My dad and stepmom, retired “old people,” enjoy taking turns reading aloud to each other during quiet times at home or during road trips. It may keep them occupied as miles pass by on their trips, but it is also time to share and bond as they take turns speaking and listening to each other and discuss their thoughts about the book. The last book they read together was “Memoirs of a Geisha”; Dad, having spent military time stationed in Japan some years after WWII, was the expert at pronouncing the strange words. They could better understand the movie as well as compare book to movie.

So perhaps we’re never too old to read to each other. It takes a willingness to spend quiet time together – what a rarity in today’s world, but the reward is worth it.

Here is a link to Jim Trelease’s website (of The Read-Aloud Handbook fame) for tips on reading to children: http://www.trelease-on-reading.com/rah_chpt4_p1.html

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Lilacs in Bloom


Oh, the air is sweet! I have a Korean lilac in my backyard, and when the flowers bloom that heavenly fragrance takes me back to childhood to a time when I used to hide among the tall stems of lilac bushes pretending I was hidden to the world. Our backyard was lined with old-fashioned lilacs – Syringa vulgaris – an ugly name for what I thought was a beautiful shrub. The flowers are larger than those of Korean or Persian lilacs, the leaves bigger and bluer. The stems are sturdier, like slim tree trunks, but gnarled. Our lilac border was the perfect place to pretend I was sneaking through a forest, like a deer in the shadows.

Smells, sights, and sounds can bring back memories. If you are working on a memoir – scrapbook, video, or book – be sure to use sensory details to bring the stories alive. Factual accounts are wonderfully colored by the addition of thoughts, feelings, and the use of the five senses.

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The Easter Tree

A few years ago my sister gave me an “Easter box.” Inside were many “ornaments” she had made to use for a Sunday School project. The “ornaments” are actually items, such as a piece of palm leaf or a felt lion or twin babies, that illustrate both Old and New Testament Bible stories. During Lent, one item is unwrapped from its tissue paper each night. A Bible verse is written on a slip of paper attached to the loop of thread that forms the hanger. My oldest daughter now thinks she’s too big for this, but my youngest enjoys guessing the meaning of the item and telling the story behind it – or looking up the verse to remind her. She then hangs the item on some barren tree branches I’ve placed in an old metal pitcher filled with stones to hold the branches in place. Often we forget to do an item each night and end up choosing several in one night. Usually we don’t even get to all the items, but that’s ok – it is supposed to be a fun way to remember the Bible stories, not a chore.

Our “Easter Tree” has now joined our traditions to celebrate the Easter story and rebirth. Someday the Easter box will be passed on for grandchildren to use and I hope they will think of their grandmother, or great aunt, who created it.

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