Memorial Day – all quiet on the western front

Outside, three shots fired into the air. Inside, I found my veteran friend had been startled by the sound of war. I had forgotten to warn him. We were at a VFW post on the western side of St. Louis to attend a Memorial Day ceremony and do a book signing at the barbeque afterwards. Doc doesn’t like to go to funerals or memorials, however, because he’s seen too much death of the horrific kind, and since then it’s emotionally difficult for him to solemnly focus on death. I left him inside the post building and joined a small crowd outside. At the end of the ceremony, three elder veterans picked up their old M1 rifles and fired three measured blasts. Then the bugler played taps and the half-mast flag was hoisted to the top of its pole.

Not long after Battlefield Doc was published, as a passenger on a car ride I picked up a copy of All Quiet on the Western Front left on the back seat. This famous novel by Erich Maria Remarque is based on his experiences as a German soldier during WWI. I became immersed in sections that in detached manner impressively captured the trauma and pathos of combat duty and the dead feeling of disconnect when a front line soldier returns to civilian life. It reminded me of Doc saying, “You have to put your soul on hold” when you’re on the battlefield. For some, part of that soul is lost forever, and so I remember combat survivors as well as battle dead on Memorial Day.

In the novel, young soldier Paul goes home on leave and his father wants to hear all about the front. “It is too dangerous for me to put these things into words. I am afraid they might then become gigantic and I be no longer able to master them. What would become of us if everything that happens out there were quite clear to us?” Many combat veterans don’t want to speak of what happened “out there.” They want to forget, except that what happened is embedded in their psyches. It’s important to honor the stories that we do hear, to understand what these men went through so we won’t take war lightly as something that happens “out there,” or on TV or in the movies. War is here, hidden in the minds of the survivors, and sometimes it comes out at night, or whenever there is the sound of gunfire.

Doc hopes that his simply-written stories of real-life combat duty will affect teens as well as adults. He hopes that what the men in the trenches of the Korean War went through will not be forgotten in the shadow of WWII or Vietnam – these men and their stories are worth remembering, too.

“This book is to be neither an accusation nor a confession, and least of all an adventure, for death is not an adventure to those who stand face to face with it.” – All Quiet on the Western Front

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Finding stories for your memoir

“Everyone has stories.” Maybe you’ve heard that before and know it’s true, except you can’t think of your own stories. OTHER people have stories. Anyway, why would your family care about the few memories you have? Well, your family who loves you would like to hold onto who you are and pass you on to future generations. Having your stories around would help. And you have more stories than you know…

You are from a particular time, place, and culture. You are a time capsule containing a past that your current and future family members can delight in learning about and even be inspired from. Your stories can make history meaningful and personal and enrich your family’s lives as they learn more about who you were and who you are. They may be amazed and astonished, they may be inspired, they may understand you better. They may laugh, they may cry. Don’t be surprised if they love you even more! Sharing stories can make the bonds of family – and friendship – stronger.

My last post featured ghostwriter Kim Pearson, who has helped many people produce their memoirs but also is a ghostwriter for her dog! Her book for people, Making History: How to remember, record, interpret, and share the events of your life, is a valuable aid to life writing. I think it is particularly beneficial for anyone wanting to make a collection of short stories, versus a memoir that is one long story such as dealing with a debilitating illness or traveling through Europe one summer. Kim writes in a personable way, giving advice on life writing, addressing questions and fears, and giving examples of memories and short stories–maybe the last is the most helpful. Non-writers who feel intimidated will like holding onto Kim’s hand as she leads them through this process of remembering and sharing. Kim has included timelines (ex. Economics and Politics, Social Fabric, Wars and the International Scene, Arts & Entertainment) not only to prod memory, but to include within stories so readers can feel how a story fits into a bigger picture of life during that time.

making-history-200x300The final chapter is on “The Really Big Stuff.” What were (and are) your hopes and dreams? What has been your passion in life? How did you get through bad times? What do you want to tell your children and grandchildren, or anyone else who would read your book?  Kim gives many sample questions to choose to write about. On the one hand, she reminds, “You are creating a primary source.” Which means you were an eyewitness, someone who lived during those times. What did you experience? Your stories matter as history. On the other hand, what are the lessons you have learned, what wisdom do you want to impart? Who are you, what did you think, how did life affect you? You are a unique somebody. And you have stories to share!

 

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Ghostwriting a memoir for the dogs (and cats)

Woof, woof! What is your dog saying to you? Do you have a cat with a big personality or an incredible tale? Today’s post is by Kim Pearson, a writer I follow through her blog, From the Compost, and on social media. She is not just a writer, she is also a ghost. And interestingly, she has channeled her dog in the book Dog Park Diary. Does your pet have stories?

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A Dog’s Ghost

by Kim Pearson

I am a Ghost. Ghostwriter, that is. I write books for other people who don’t have time to write, or think they don’t have the talent to write, or just plain hate to write – some people would rather clean the toilet than write. Nevertheless, they have a story, or an idea, or a Cause – and they want the world to know about it. So they hire me to write their books. So far I’ve written nearly fifty books for other people, and everyone is happy. Life is good.

The biggest challenge about ghostwriting is that you must become someone else. I am invited into another person’s head, and allowed to poke around. I mine the data and the passion I find there, and bring it to the surface so I can play with it.

This isn’t easy. Your brain doesn’t work just like mine. In order to find the information and the emotion that I need to write like you, first I have to think like you. And actually, this is impossible.

So have I figured out how to do the impossible? No, I’ve just learned to pretend really, really well. I pretend to think like you. And if I pretend hard enough, something weird happens to my brain and I do think like you – at least while I’m writing your book.

Actors do this when they portray a real-life person. Think of Jamie Foxx as Ray Charles. He was more like Ray Charles than Ray Charles was. Through the mysterious alchemy of art, for the duration of making that movie, Jamie Foxx probably thought like Ray Charles. And that’s what ghostwriters do too. They’re just not in front of a camera when they do it.

I began to understand the dynamic of pretending when I wrote a book for a dog. In a dog’s voice. It was about the dog’s visits to the dog park, and the experiences she had there. It’s called Dog Park Diary: the social round of Goody Beagle. Now I’m writing the sequel, about Goody Beagle’s fur brother Alex, due out next year.

All my interpersonal skills were no use in writing Goody’s book. I had to pretend to be aDogParkDiary dog, and not just any dog, this particular dog. Dogs are as individual as people. There are dogs who have phobias about vacuum cleaners, and dogs who like to sleep under the covers, and dogs who believe that squirrels should be wiped off the face of the earth. There are dogs who turn up their noses at expensive kibble in favor of three-day-old garbage, and dogs who will learn how to roll over or shake hands. To some dogs, Frisbees are the reason for living. For other dogs, the most fun in the world is to force others to go where they want them to go, and if they don’t, the dogs get to nip their heels. And for still others, any day they don’t go swimming is an evil day indeed.

But there are some things about being a dog that are common to all dogs. For one thing, being alone is the worst fate that can befall them. But the big thing, the biggest thing that matters to a dog’s ghostwriter, is that they don’t think in pictures or words, like we do. They think in smells.

How to think in smells is impossible to explain fully in an article made out of words. But thinking in smells is how I was able to write in a dog’s voice. I pretended that smell was everything to me. I went around sniffing the ordinary things in my house and my yard – the dishwasher has a smell, the dandelions have a smell, the mailbox has a smell. Even if I couldn’t actually smell them, I pretended that I could. And guess what? When I wrote the story, the correct doggy words drifted up to my brain from my pitiful olfactory bulb (pitiful in comparison with a dog), and I got close to what mattered to that dog. I know this is true, because she told me so.

And now writing for people is a piece of cake.

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Kim Pearson is an author, ghostwriter, and the owner of Primary Sources, a writing service that helps others become authors of polished, professional, and compelling books. She is the author of Making History: how to remember, record, interpret and share the events of your life and of Dog Park Diary (ghostwritten for a dog!), as well as fiction and haiku poetry books. She has ghostwritten (for people) more than 45 non-fiction books and memoirs. To learn more about her books or services, visit Kim Pearson’s website, Primary Sources.

Note: Kim’s Making History book may be just the thing to motivate you to write your own (human) stories. Scroll way down her Books web page to find a link to an excerpt.

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