So I’m not quite up to speed in my life yet due to missing the whole month of November (see Nov 21 post, Loss of a Loved One), taking care of after effects, being busy at work and trying to catch up with home business while handling the holidays. I lost a weekend attending our daughter’s college graduation in another state – so proud of our aerospace engineering girl! After she and we returned home I realized Christmas was the next week and all I had done was get my mother’s cards in the mail and thrown some lights on the front bushes. The tree! The cookies! Our cards! Oh, no!
The thought of putting up the usual full-size live and messy tree was overwhelming. As in emotional breakdown overwhelming. So I stuffed the three-foot office party Christmas tree into the back seat of the car, ornaments and all, and brought it home to set on an end table in a dark corner. “See, it doesn’t look bad at all at night,” I pleaded with my girls, hoping they’d agree to toss tradition to the winds and accept this little faker. They took pity on me (they didn’t want to take over the work, not for just a week of tree enjoyment). I felt guilty, but I got over it.
Talking to others who have had to change their Christmas traditions made me feel better. I remembered that it’s okay to alter the old ways or make do with less to accommodate new conditions. Conditions may be permanent, like kids growing up and having families of their own and other places to visit, and some are one-off like having to deal with a family or business issue that pops up. Adaptability is the key to less stress, letting go of expectations and grabbing on to what makes the most sense.
Hope you all are having a wonderful holiday, of altered traditions or not. I like this little fake tree!