Poetry as Memoir, Poetry in Memoir

April is National Poetry Month. I came across a posting from the Los Angeles Independent about a Poetry as Memoir workshop, led by poet Steven Reigns, on April 15 at the West Hollywood Library. What an interesting concept, and difficult I would think. For most people it’s hard enough to sit down and write anything about their life, so getting artistic with rhyming words is out of the question. But for those who enjoy poetry, enjoy writing, want a challenge, or want to try something different, this could be your kind of fun. If you’re really good, advance to “haiku memoir.”

I do think there are many poets hidden amongst us, though. Everyday people with a little secret, because sharing a poem is like stripping the skin off your soul. Poems tend to be highly personal, creative expressions of sensitivity, and when exposed to an eye-rolling, cynical society wanting perfection, one can only cringe while waiting for a response. Just as in memoir writing!

If you do toy with writing poetry, think about including some in your lifewriting. You really don’t have to be a “professional” poet for your family and friends. Just as a passed-down recipe or favorite song lyrics or some doodles add a little spice to a memoir, so can a poem be a special piece of you. Your poem can be of feelings about a childhood home, a love note to a child, a memory of any moment in time that affects your heart – no rhyming necessary. I have a couple hidden poems about each of my daughters, part of mini journals of their childhood that I plan to give to them when they leave for homes of their own.

So, in honor of Poetry Month, try your hand at writing a little poem. Or at least read one.

Shy girl, always scared,
Learned confidence, dared to try –
Renaissance woman!

“Poems hang out where life is”
-Poemcrazy: Freeing Your Life With Words by Susan G. Wooldridge

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Kid Memories of Mom – Clean Your Room!

“Copy this note, ask your kid(s) the questions and write them down exactly how they respond. Send this back to me, I’d love to hear the answers.”

Well, that’s a little twist on Facebook tag. My sister sent this to me with her teen kids’ fun answers attached (#3 “no chocolate in the house,” #5 “it’s a mystery”). Unfortunately, my youngest and I had to quit the survey after her first three answers were all related to “Clean your room” and the next few were met with confused looks followed by “I don’t know.” I tell myself, “she’s a tween and too busy to pay attention to me,” while she says, “Ask my sister, she’s known you longer.” (Sister is away at college.)

So try these out on your kids – if you dare – and see what kind of memories they’ll have of you. Good luck!

1. What is something your mommy always says to you?

2. What makes your mommy happy?

3. What makes your mommy sad?

4. How does your mommy make you laugh?

5. What was your mommy like as a child?

6. How old is your mommy?

7. What is your mommy’s favorite thing to do?

8. What does your mommy do when you’re not around?

9. What is your mommy really good at?

10. What is your mommy not very good at?

11. What makes you proud of your mommy?

12. What do you and your mommy do together?

13. How are you and your mommy the same?

14. How are you and your mommy different?

15. How do you know your mommy loves you?

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Pet Memories – Is There a Dog Heaven?

I’m really not a dog person, so why am I so weepy over a dog? Yesterday morning I took our old Buddy for his last slow walk around the block then helped him into the car for his last ride. Our vet was so kind to him – and to me – as she explained the procedure and administered the shot that put him into a deep sleep. With Buddy’s head growing heavy on my lap, I rubbed his ears and told him what a good dog he was. His relaxed snoring was a sweet lullaby that could not stop the pain in my heart as he left me.

Our beloved pets leave us with memories as precious as those of the people who leave us. Often those memories are quite colorful, definitely something to add to our life stories. Who doesn’t remember their pets from childhood – a puppy chewing up your toys…or your dad’s expensive shoes, a frisky kitten attacking your foot…or the living room curtains. I remember Puff pulling me in my skates across an icy pond, I remember being in my pajamas and chasing Tiger in the night to save a crying rabbit, I remember Tammy the cat pretending Charlie the hamster was her baby. Our pets grow up with us and often provide us with our first experience of death. That experience doesn’t get any easier when we become adults, rather our pets move from being playmates to being more like one of our own children. They give us stories that help complete our lives. Now I will remember Buddy’s wistful brown eyes, how he loved being buried in the fall leaves and snuffling in the snow. Most of all I’ll remember how all he ever wanted was to be loved.

I hope there is a dog heaven, and a cat heaven, and even a hamster heaven – yes, I cried when our hamsters died. I’m glad I have Cynthia Rylant’s beautiful Dog Heaven book to comfort me.

When dogs go to Heaven, they don’t need wings
Because God knows that dogs love running best.

Buddy, I hope you can run again, right into the arms of your new Master.

Feel free to share your own pet memories in the Comments. I can use some comforting stories.
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