Liar! Famous Memoir Fakes

One after another these days we are seeing high profile memoirs proven to be falsified. The first in this latest series was James Frey’s A Million Little Pieces which was exposed shortly after I published the first edition of Cherry Blossoms in Twilight. I was angry. I had gone to a lot of trouble to make sure everything in my mother’s WWII memoir was true to the best of our knowledge, both personal and historical. Here was a man who seemed to have no qualms about passing off fabrications as the truth, looking Oprah (and her millions of viewers) in the eye and saying it was all real. Now we have Angel at the Fence by the Rosenblats who lied TWICE to Oprah, first in 1996 and then in 2008. Misha Defonseca can now write a memoir about how she faked her memoir about being raised by wolves (and who believed that in the first place?) and the lawsuits and the ridiculous circus of accusations ensuing. Other fakes include Love and Consequences (rich girl fakes being foster child running in gangs) by Margaret Jones, Augustin Burrough’s Running With Scissors (overactive imagination say the brother and mother), and UK lawyer Constance Briscoe’s Ugly which caused her mother to sue her for libel.

Of course, fake memoirs are not new. Go Ask Alice (1971) was said to be based on a real diary, The Education of Little Tree (1976) written not by an Indian but a white supremacist, A Child Called It (1993) by David Pelzer, called a “professional victim.” Why do they do it? Mostly for money and fame. A sensational true story sells better than sensational fiction. The Rosenblats wanted to “bring happiness to people” with their story and one might argue some of the others wanted to get a message out. The end result, however, is that all memoirs suffer from those who embellish too much in order to get published. All become tainted as readers wonder, “Is this one really true?” No one likes to be fooled into crying or empathizing over a fake. In the Rosenblat’s case they have provided fodder for Holocaust deniers.

While truth can be a difficult thing to pin down, there is a line in the sand which we should not cross. Is it the truth as you know it, as you have researched it, or are you being lazy in looking up the facts, or do you know in your heart that you are making something up. Life writing maven Sharon Lippincott explains this further in her blog post of January 11, discussing an Isabel Allende interview where she says that her memoirs “will always be somehow fictionalized.” In the end a memoir is how you remembered it to the best of your knowledge, hence the term “creative nonfiction.” Small details are not so important, like what you ate or the color of a room, and if you’re not sure about something bigger, simply write “As I remember,” or “I think,” or “I believe,” but please, don’t play us for fools. If you lie, someone will catch you.

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Snow Days – Are You Too Old to Play?

Culture Feast carried a Feb 3 post, “A Grown-Up Snow Day,” mentioning the initial thrill of being able to sleep late on those rare days when your office shuts down due to weather… until you have to get up and tackle the human snow plow activities of the day, and then household chores. “What do you do on snow days?” Jenny Hammitt asks.

Most of us above the Mason-Dixon line have seen plenty of snow this winter. While some folks have had to slip-slide their way to work anyway, others are able to work from home on bad days or the office actually does shut down. Some have to stay home with kids off from school. The kids sure know how to have fun in the snow, but do you?

Turn loose your inner kid! After you’ve finished the shoveling and rested with a cup of hot cocoa, tea or coffee, have a little fun! Don’t you deserve it? If you’ve got kids, join them in sledding or making snowmen. Personally, I like to make snow ponies for the kids to ride on, with yew clippings for manes, but recently saw a photo online of someone’s snow kitty – how cute! One year adults joined the neighborhood kids in a big snowball fight. It’s fun, too, to put on the boots and take a walk in the snow – providing it’s not thigh-high. Our lab-mix, Buddy, loves snow and loved to participate in snowball fights and chases and go along for walks in the white stuff. He’s too old now, but still enjoys sticking his nose into the whiteness, adding to his already white muzzle.

This reminds me of the old days when I was a kid and global warming was global cooling. We had so much snow in the Midwest that most winters my dad made an igloo for us, with stairs to a steep sled run on top. Ah, those were the days.

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The Longest Trip Home – Good or Boring?

Not long ago my daughter and I saw the movie Marley & Me. I thought it was great, at least from the viewpoint of one who hadn’t read the book first. I like dogs, but mostly I like how they go home with other people, so I remained horrified by the destructive, misbehaving Marley. I do, however, have an aged and ill Labrador mix who is as mild-mannered and sweet as they come so the movie’s ending was a painful reminder of a sad day approaching. Mostly, though, I enjoyed watching the maturing of the husband-wife relationship.

So now there’s another Grogan memoir out. How many memoirs should one person write? The Longest Trip Home has disappointed some Marley fans in that there is no dog there. It has also disappointed others because it is about common life experiences…we’ve all heard about ruler-whacking nuns, voyeuristic teen boys, and young adults who abandon the religion they were brought up in. Chauncey Mabe, Sun Sentinel book reviewer, complains that the book lacks the misery of best-selling memoirs (mis-mems) such as Angela’s Ashes or Running With Scissors and suggests Grogan could have written a fictitious version – a novel – with added angst that could have better sustained interest and got the same points across about relationships. On the other hand, The Book Lady loved The Longest Trip Home, calling it “refreshing and wonderful” compared to the usual trauma-filled memoirs. She states the book is “a testament to the idea that all of our life stories are important and have something to offer.” Hear, hear. I would argue that Marley is about common life experiences, too, and the dog is what sells it so well.

So what do YOU think about Grogan’s Trip?

To read a great interview with John Grogan on BookReads, click here.

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