Videotaping Family History Part I

Videotaping is a fast and fairly easy way to record memories. Almost everyone has a videocamera, and many cameras these days are capable of very good editing. Even for the technologically incompetent, though, videotaping can be done easily and well enough. Know how to work your camera and practice panning across a room very slowly, zooming in and out very slowly, so you won’t make your video viewers seasick. When you are ready to tape, have the battery charged and a spare handy – or plug the camera into a wall outlet. Have one or two blank cassettes ready to use. A tripod would be great to have to keep the camera steady. I sat in a kitchen chair with my knees jacked up and the camera propped on my knees – it worked, but is a little uncomfortable for long sessions.

Decide where you want to tape and who all you want in the room. It may be fine to have just your subject there, it may be better to have a relative or two sitting with them to help facilitate conversation. Maybe you want to sit with that person and ask questions while somebody else tapes.

I ran the videorecorder while interviewing my husband’s grandmother and mother together in a dining room. My mother-in-law was a huge help since Granny was not a big talker. She knew some of the stories to ask about and helped Granny feel more at ease. My mother-in-law sat at the table fixing up a tray of lasagna, with my daughter quietly popping in later to help sprinkle cheese. It was a warm and homey scene that ended up capturing not only some of Granny’s stories, but also her daughter’s. I was very pleased.

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Memories – Help Your Job Search

Our local newspaper carried an interesting article by Tim McGuire, syndicated columnist, who interviewed Cliff Hakim, author of “We Are All Self-Employed: How to Take Control of Your Own Career.” Mr. Hakim has a consulting business, Rethinking Work, which helps others determine the kind of work that is important and meaningful to them. He feels life is too short to waste it doing work that is unfulfilling. Mr. Hakim believes that people should look into their past, to think about their own stories, in order to understand what is important to them and what gives them joy. By finding a job that meshes with what is meaningful to you, then you will find happiness and be able to add value in your own way to the world.

A tip at the end of the article states that reflecting on ordinary memories and childhood stories will help you realize “important things about who you are now.” So, perhaps our reminiscing is not just making a happy familiar playground for our minds or, in the case of unhappy pasts, a way of inflicting further pain on our psyches, but rather a way to really look at ourselves and learn lessons from our history that will help us lead more fulfilled and complete lives now… an interesting thought for the day.

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Time Out

The paragraph below was recently printed in “The New York Times,” part of a piece by Anne Marie Feld that was adapted from her book “Mommy Wars: Stay-At-Home and Career Moms Face Off on Their Choices, Their Lives, Their Families,” due out this March. Sounds like a very interesting book. This paragraph really struck me – as I strive for order and cleanliness in my home, it reminds me of the importance of taking time out, spending quality time with my family, because the good memories are the fun and joys of togetherness, not how clean the house was…

“In her insistence upon getting things done, on living an ordered life, my mother managed to miss out on the nourishing aspects of family life and life in general: laughing at silly things, lying spooned on the couch with your beloveds, sharing good food, the tactile delight of giggling children crawling all over you. Without this, family life is an endless series of menial tasks: counters and noses to wipe, dishes and bodies to wash, whites and colors to fold, again and again in soul-sucking succession.”

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