Seasons of Our Lives: Women’s Memoirs

“Each woman is a story waiting to be told,” says Susan Wittig Albert, author of Writing from Life and founder of Story Circle Network, an organization that teaches and encourages women to write and share their life stories. After writing my mother’s memoir, Cherry Blossoms in Twilight, I came to believe this sentiment, too. Not to say men don’t have important personal stories, but women, even today, are usually the backbone of the family and the carriers of the hands-on, in-the-trenches stories of everyday life. Their stories don’t usually make it into history books.

Seasons-of-Our-LivesI follow authors Matilda Butler and Kendra Bonnett and their Women’s Memoirs website which inspires and teaches women about writing their life stories and sometimes posts some of them. A couple years ago, they held a contest, inviting women to send in their short personal stories based on a season. Winning stories were featured on the website, and mine was one of them. Matilda and Kendra have just published four e-books of these vignettes, Seasons of Our Lives for spring, summer, autumn, and winter.

For 53 hours, beginning February 1 at 10:00 a.m. CDT, all four e-book volumes will be available for only $.99 each through Amazon’s Kindle* Store. Prices will increase by $1 each 53 hours until they reach the regular price of $3.99 each. The stories are sweet, sad, funny, poignant. Each is followed by a takeaway and writing tip from the editors, to help you reflect on the seasons of your life and hopefully prompt you to write your own stories. My story, A Child is Born, is in the spring volume. If you purchase one or all of these volumes, please support the writers by leaving Amazon reviews.

Seasons of Our Lives:  Spring
Seasons of Our Lives:  Summer
Seasons of Our Lives:  Autumn
Seasons of Our Lives:  Winter

*Note:  You do not need a Kindle to read these e-books. When purchasing, you are given options for reading, and can choose another type of e-reader (except Nook), including your pc or Mac.

The sale countdown:

February 1, 10am CST, $.99
February 3, 3pm CST, $1.99
February 5, 8pm CST, $2.99
February 8, 1am CST, $3.99 (regular price)

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Back from Tennessee, with good memories and pulled pork barbecue

I won’t have to eat again for a week. We are back from a post-Christmas visit to family, my husband’s side in West Tennessee. My mom-in-law is the queen of home cooked Southern meals. When not eating cornbread dressing, super-candied sweet potatoes, corn pudding casserole, and incredibly moist coconut cake, I worked to finish up a mini lifestory book of her memories growing up in the country and of recipes of her most famous dishes. I’ll have to print the book in color, to capture the full glory of the photos of food and the beauty of the family’s land, old barns and closeups of purple-hull pea plants included. I will let you know how that goes—the full-color books may be expensive, but the contents will be priceless.

MeadowlarkHard to say what I like best about visiting the Tennessee countryside. Uncle Harold called it “God’s Country,” and it is. Not of the remote God of majestic vistas or stunning landforms or sharp peaks piercing the sky, but of a reachable God of forested rolling hills and swampy bottomlands, of the morning songs of yellow-breasted meadowlarks. There’s the landscape that speaks of nostalgia, there’s the comfort food born from hard-working farm life, there’s the warmth of family ties. Then there is the barbecue.

Tennessee barbecue is unlike any other. I’m not talking about Memphis barbecue (I’ve been to the famed Rendevous restaurant), but Tennessee hill country barbecue, hickory-smoked at small, often roadside joints that are like little diners, if there is seating at all. Earl Russell, who grew up on a Tennessee farm, wrote about it in a recent blog post, “Soul Food—Tennessee Pulled Pork,” which made me hungry and wistful. My family only visits our Tennessee side once or twice a year, and a long time has passed since we last ate barbecue there. Despite all the glorious home-cooked leftovers in the fridge, my sister-in-law took me to the Pig House of Jackson, Tennessee, to indulge my memories.

Pig House BarbecueWas this moist, shredded pork better than any other I’ve tasted, or was I just basking in nostalgia? Comparing it to St. Louis barbecue, the country barbecue had a milder smoked flavor, not the almost too-rich flavor I find here. The sauce is not the sweet, ketchup-looking stuff we have here and everywhere else I’ve been either. Tennessee country barbecue has a thin, vinegary red sauce flecked with dots of red pepper. It has a bite to it. The taste of the pork is more delicate, and the sauce enhances, not overwhelms. I’ll have to compare notes with Earl, for whom this barbecue is a long-distance treat now, too, but the pork was good and we brought some home with us along with a tub of that sauce. (The Pig House chicken was excellent, too, and I see the business will ship.) Paul Latham’s Meat Co. is also known for its barbecue.

Tennessee Pulled Pork

I would definitely recommend stopping by one of the little barbecue places if you’re traveling through the Tennessee countryside. I know northern Alabama has them, too—I highly recommend the Old Greenbriar Restaurant if you’re ever in the area of Huntsville/Madison. Greenbriar has an outstanding white sauce for its barbecue chicken that I have never seen elsewhere, not even in Tennessee. Hmm, I wonder if they do mail order.

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Supenbrai and those stories you heard over Thanksgiving

Hope you all had a wonderful holiday with family and friends and stories. I asked my dad what sort of Dutch things his parents (my grandparents) did. He said, “They just went to a Dutch church and ate supenbrij.” I knew the Dutch church had one of its services in the Dutch language and that my grandmother often went to church service twice daily. I remembered I had found a recipe for supenbrai (“soop em bry”) online and told Dad I had thought about trying it out. “Don’t bother,” he scoffed, “It’s awful.” Being the curious type, I still might someday make this lumpy, congealed barley goo that seems related to oatmeal. Eating the food your grandparents ate is experiencing their heritage in a visceral way, right? I might be sorry.

My step-family came up with some funny stories. A cousin’s family decided to buy a real tree Friday night, a change from their usual artificial one. Stopping on the way home, they checked to make sure the tree was still up on the car top—it wasn’t! It was waiting for them in the dark several miles back on the side of the highway, in perfectly good shape. I told them about the time our real tree fell over onto our hardwood floor for no apparent reason, right in front of our eyes, shattered pieces of glass balls and broken ornament parts everywhere. The horrified look on our faces must have been priceless. A lesson in no use crying over spilled tree.

That night we heard about our step-niece’s family attending a 70th birthday party for a grandpa. Her little boy, the cutest two-year-old ever, suddenly did a projectile vomit – right onto the birthday grandpa. Because everyone needs a little barf on their birthday! What can you do but laugh. Reminds me of the time another young family member sneezed mightily onto the broccoli salad just as it started its passage along the table at a big family gathering. Germs, anyone?

So what do you do with your family stories? My friend Kim Wolterman and I will be at the Webster Groves Book Shop in St. Louis this Saturday, December 7, 2:00-4:00 p.m. to talk about that. December 7 is Pearl Harbor Day. Kim and I both have written and published lifestory books about our parents and WWII. Kim is author of From Buckeye to GI, about her father’s service in the China-India-Burma theatre, because not so much is heard about that. She also helps others discover the lifestories (histories) of their old houses with her Guess Who’s Been Sleeping in My Bed(room) book for St. Louis detectives and her e-book, Keys to Unlocking House History for anyone in the United States. I am interesting in seeing her new Shutterfly book about her recent family history hunting trip overseas. Of course, I have Cherry Blossoms in Twilight, my mother’s story of surviving the Depression and WWII in Japan—because not so much is heard about that either. I will also bring along a few shorter and family-only lifestory projects I did for others. I’ll be creating a handout about ways to capture stories and will post it on this website under the Resources tab.

Hear any good stories over the holiday?

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