More on poetry as lifewriting

The other night I scored a triple crown of poets. All three Missouri poets laureate, past and present, were doing a reading at a local university. Walter Bargen is our first poet laureate, a quiet man known for nature poems. I, however, am in love with his Endearing Ruins (sadly, available only in Germany or directly from Mr. Bargen). This book of poems, in both English and German, features recollections of being a child in Germany, where he played in the aftermath of WWII. It includes poem moments in America, where a classmate discovered for him that his mother spoke with an accent, where he got caught in a tornado that tossed his glasses, wallet, Bible down the streets so “I guess you could say / I was a man about town.” Some of these poems are also in Days Like This Are Necessary.

“On weekends I’d see through the rain-flecked
back window, fields of bomb craters turned
upside down in streaming lenses of rain.
Still the craters filled with water,
working themselves into weed-choked
ponds where frogs exploded into a new season.”
– “Lost Ordnance” from Endearing Ruins

David Clewell was the second poet laureate. He is a brash, big man with white Santa whiskers who brought poem toys that made us laugh and think about tofu. He writes long poems with long titles, many are philosophical or autobiographical (or both) essay poems—no good poem rhymes these days, too restrictive, too contrived. His poems “will tell you it’s not what you think.”

“Riding high in the grocery store cart,
Sometimes Ben would get this far-off look for a minute.
And then he’d be on his way again, unmistakeably grinning
back into the thick of his otherwise nonstop talking.
And once, I heard it, too, or thought I did: my mother’s voice…”
– “The Only Time There Is (for my mother)” from Taken Somehow by Surprise

William Trowbridge, our current poet laureate, is a casual, pleasant man with shocking blue eyes–shocking like his poems. He wrote a series of mostly biting, philosophical poems about “The Fool,” which is many men, perhaps all men and maybe some women. But he made us smile at his young boy self daydreaming in right field—poet’s corner. He recalled the satisfaction of shooting off cherry bombs, “so quick, so blunt, so right to boys / who dreamed of fuse and detonation.” He also wrote:

“…when I donned the Nazi pilot’s gloves
my father shipped from Cologne with the picture
of himself sitting proud in his new mustache
my mother said made him look like Stalin,
gloves with the smell of war…”
– “Home Front” from Enter Dark Stranger

These are serious poets. No dropping pretty words just to hear them sparkle, no mere crying for love lost. Their work speaks of sharp wit and slow, pensive musing, of metaphors that take your breath away. I don’t know why poetry books are a hard sell when reading them can put new words and ideas, new ways of thinking into any writer of fiction or memoir. Poetry is a frame of mind. Poetry expands the mind.

Walter Bargen, Missouri's first poet laureate, who called Poems That Come to Mind "fiercely imaged."

Walter Bargen, Missouri’s first poet laureate, who called Poems That Come to Mind “fiercely imaged.”

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How to write a memoir that will sell

Everyone has interesting stories. Whether you have a series of short life stories or a whole memoir waiting to come out on paper, the big question is who will want to read it? Of course your stories will be important to your family, and maybe even your friends, but do you think strangers will shell out money to read your stories? Are you willing to poke your head above the comforting waters of anonymity and publicize your book to the masses?

The St. Louis Writers Guild published an article I wrote about this in their Winter 2013 edition of their quarterly journal, “The Scribe.” If you live in the St. Louis area, the SLWG is worth joining to learn how to write better and to just have fun networking with other writers – writing does not have to be lonely. “The Scribe” is a benefit for Guild members only, but the article I wrote is below (and now also under the Resources tab of this blog).

Writing a Memoir That Will Sell

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Suitcase Full of Dreams

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Alzheimers “Poems That Come to Mind” booksigning and chat

Poems for AlzheimersThis Saturday afternoon, March 2nd from 2:00-4:00 p.m., I’ll be at the charming Webster Groves Bookshop (the little bookshop on the corner) to chat with visitors about Alzheimer’s caregiving and to pass out hugs – both Hershey’s and real live ones. Caregivers definitely need hugs, so if you know one please show them a little love! Poems That Come to Mind, as well as Cherry Blossoms in Twilight, will be available for purchase. I’ll have special business-card size notes with me that family and friends can pass to store clerks or restaurant servers, etc., so they can quietly be made aware there is an Alzheimer’s-dementia patient in their presence and to please be patient and understanding.

I’ll also have cards about the Memory People Facebook group, an awesomely supportive private group of both those with dementia and their caregivers – they listen to joys and sorrows and screams with love and understanding, and everyone is so willing to give tips and advice on what worked (or didn’t) for them. And listening to Alzheimer patients explain what life is like for them is truly illuminating. Rick Phelps, who has Alzheimer’s, is the founder of Memory People and author of While I Still Can about his journey with early-onset Alzheimer’s. No, Alzheimer’s is not just the old-timer’s disease. People in their 40s can start showing symptoms, too!

Pass this booksigning/chat information on to anyone you know in the St. Louis area who has an Alzheimer’s/dementia patient in their family. I’ll be glad to give them a hug and talk with them about their own experiences. And maybe send them out with a poem in their heart.

Webster Groves BookshopWebster Groves Bookshop

100 W Lockwood
Webster Groves, MO 63119
(corner of Lockwood and Gore)

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